Answering back

[stopsayingmum]

Please give me your tips on how to stop my DD 5 from answering me back continually. I am very fed up with it now.

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got a 3.5 dd who looks like she is heading this way already. I don't mind a discussion but the bloody cheeky back chat drives me nuts!

can you give an example of what you mean by answering back? Do you mean arguing with everything you say?

stopsayingmum - My five yo DD is doing EXACTLY the same thing.

I've tried all the tired old cliches like "Don't be rude to mummy" "Don't answer me back" blah blah blah. It's making me miserable! Tried shouting bribery, time outs etc

Sorry I don't have any advice. Just wanted you to know you're not alone!

When you do find the magical answer tell me. I just gave my DD (9.2) the bus fare to come home after she had antagonised me once too often. I am slightly regretting it though because I don't know where she is. OOPS.

She says "NO!" to everything I say - thats not on her agenda, eg, get up, eat breakfast, brush teeth, get dressed, brush hair, put shoes on, lets go.....,
I get..." I want toast and sugar in bed." and
"No, I'm not going to bed, I don't want to." Then a tantrum, before I've even said anything else.

I am tired of this behaviour. She takes all punishment on the chin and says "OK" when punishment is issued. Taking away treats, pudding, toys, not getting reward stickers, sent to room,....she takes it all quite happily just to not do what was asked.

Also talking over the top of me when I am talking to her.

Oh stopsayingmum, you sound really worn down.

I saw this on the other thread about defiant children:

"I was once told that children who play up for their parents, and behave well for other people do so because they are very secure in their parents love"

That gives me hope!

kreecherlivesupstairs - Did your daughter come back with her tail between her leags

...legs?

I am glad i am not the only one. My four year old daughter is just turned into the most horrid, backchatting, rude and sometimes a little aggressive. We have a 10 month old little boy and since his arrival, she is just so not happy. We do give her alot of one to one time and there has been alot of sickness lately, i have been in hosp for baby and in and out with gall bladder issues (now thankfully removed). Her dad has just been diagnosed with a serious lung condition of which the outcome is not yet decided so I know there are lot of factors to consider. We do give her alot of time, attention and praise her for being good when she is and also we always praise when she is good with her little brother but she has just got this whine voice and then it escalates into a full blown tantrum.. I am reading through threads and am relieved to see that is normal !

Normal but just so tiring! My six year old DD is exactly the same. Stopsayingmum, your experience sounds so familiar it could be our mornings you're talking about. I have no advice as I came on here seeking an answer to the same problem! So just bumping really in the home someone might want to share their magical insight!

Adding my support, but unfortunately no advice. My ds (3.9) does this. I say 'ds stop doing that', he says 'no, you stop doing it' etc. Everything I say to him he says back to me, although obviously most of the time it does not make any sense. He also talks over me and does not care about punishments really. Nothing makes any impact. In fact I'm thinking of starting a thread about his behaviour .