14mo DS personality transplant???

[TiredofTantrums]

I might be being silly but my 14mo DS seems to have had a personality transplant.

Three / Four weeks ago he was the happiest child you could ask for, he laughed until he cried, he was always smiling, and was so warm and affectionate to the people around him, especially his grandparents (my parents).

We went away for 2 weeks abroad to visit the in-laws and it took him a while to settle in but by the end of the holiday he was like the lord of the manor .

We've been back a week now and my happy-go-lucky child has been replaced by one that is constantly grumpy, wont go near his grandma and often me, tantrums the second he doesn't get his own way and whinges alot!

I know it is likely to have a lot to do with the upheaval as he is still too young to understand why his surroundings keep changing but is there anything I can do to help my lovely little boy come back? I can't tell you how much I miss him!!!

He'll be back. We moved house when my DS was 15 mo. Previously, like your little fella he was the happiest baby alive. The move didn't seem to affect him that much (ie he slpt and ate OK), but for about a week he started with the mini tantrums. I can only put it down to the move. I just ignored him and within a week or so it all stopped and he was back to his former delightful little self. Hope your little monster disappears soon!

Agree with zero, just give it time. Don't forget he doesn't know what 'going on holiday' is. One day he 'moved' somewhere new, then just as he was getting used to that, he was back home .

The above is not a guilt trip by the we, we had similar problems w. ds2 last year (18 mo). He was very up and down whilst we were away and even more so after getting back. It wasn't even til I saw the happy but incredulous look on his face when we pulled up onto our drive that I realised he had no idea that he'd ever see home again.

I know - and thank you. To be honest I'm not so worried about the behaviour, its the lack of affection towards his nanny (my mum). He used to it with her for cuddles and now he will cry if left in the same room! He walked straight up to my sister (auntie and our nanny) and gave her a big hug and his grandad but not her!

I know it will get better! thanks both!

I wouldn't worry about that either - he's probably just punishing her for abandoning him!

I had to be left in hospital overnight as a toddler ~(in the days before parents stayed with children). When my parents came to get me I pointedly refused to look at my mother and clung to my father. I then ignored her for the next 3 hours . Just so she got the message as to how upset I was.

Would hasten to add I do, and always have, adored my mum.