15m playing 'games' testing limits...

[bebemoohatessnot]

So... Moo, when she's feeling disagreeable impish -but not nasty, will put her feet on the table. She knows damn well this is unacceptable. She knows she'll get a telling off. I've told her 'no' and then turned around and watched in the reflection of the window and she smiles and puts it back up there. She also will smile ever so softly and do it when I'm looking, but really really slowly....
What would you do if you were me?
I've told her off.
I've pushed her foot down.
I've held her foot down (not violently).
Used stern voice.
Used the look.
Even smacked her foot once.
I've explained.
I've offered distractions.
I've taken her away from the table. (The only solution.)

Do I ignore? After all she knows it's wrong? And is just playing with me...or will this make it seem like it's ok? I know she's young...
I've not used my ultimate danger voice (but it's not so I don't want to).
This is the one case where she absolutely does not listen. Every other time, for all other things, she listens very well might have a strop now and again, but she listens. I know someone else has another thread running abt are kids ultimately disobedient and I've read that...but not sure that any of it applies/ will work with Moo as she's younger (and I've tried so much of it already).

Have you explained why its so important for her not to put a foot on your table?.

I explain everthing to DS, always have done - if its dangerous I will use my concerned face with a gentle tone of voice to explain whats going on and then get him doing something else.

I think you might have to go right back to basics and calmly tell her why its so important to you.

PS, Is it a danger or damage you're worried about? Or is it just a good manners thing?

I would just silently move her chair back far enough from the table that she can't reach it with her feet. No reaction or attention for it.

probably giggle when she smiles and does it slowly. After all they are funny at 15mo. But if its important then a firm no and remove her from the table.

Eventually it sinks in.years later

15m?

Distraction, mainly. Or ignore it. And if the feet are going in her dinner, then push the feet down, reminding her 'keep your feet on the chair - ooh, look where's your PEAS?'.

Don't worry about it, it'll be something else soon.

Oh yes, move her chair back so she can't actually do it (then move her forward, engaging her in her dinner again).

She's a baby.

Get a high chair with a tray.

It really is a manners thing. Nothing else.

Unfortunately high chairs lead to all out war. She wants to sit at the table. She'd like to sit without her booster....actually maybe that's the solution, no booster, just the chair. But then she can hardly see her food and more ends up in her lap typically when I think about it again... hmmm

Would you truly laugh? (Sometimes I cannot help it and have to leave the room)
Do you think she's trying to make me laugh? She does often 'tell' me jokes and laughs. She also makes funny faces sometimes...Is it her sense of coming thru?

She might well be trying to make you laugh, bless her socks.

Mind you, if she sees you think it's funny, she'll never stop.

I have vague memories of DS doing something similar at that age. I just took his socks off before meals, and let him get on with it.

He doesn't do it any more! (He's 3).

In that case I would as much as possible totally ignore it - no reaction to things and they soon get bored and if she gets lots of praise for sitting nicely then she'll soon realise its better to do that instead.

She is just testing both herself and you out at the moment - just keep on with the praise and she'll come on just fine.

Thanks ladies