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8 year old DD advice needed please

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MuffinsMummy · 01/07/2010 13:47

I have been having a few problems with DD in the last couple of months, some times serious other times just annoying.

I am thinking of taking her to the doctor to see if there could be a medical reason. I dont want to bother the doctor if I dont need to so if I put a list of concerns can someone please advice me if I should take it further.

Here goes will try and keep it short!

DD is very behind with her school work. She should be at level 3c by now (year 3) but in the SATs she was level 2b for reading and maths and didnt even qualify for the English paper. They let her do the year 2 paper and she didnt even get a level 2.

She was caught stealing from her friends packed lunches in school. When asked she said she was hungry. The thing is one of the days she did it she had 2 1/2 weetabix for breakfast plus a banana and a packed lunch with more food than an adult would eat!

She doesnt really understand the consequence of her actions. When she stole from her friend I said she wouldnt want to be friends with DD if this keeps happening and DD just said no its ok she always forgives me!

If she had the chance she would eat all day. She is normal size not over or under weight but she eats adult sized portions pretty much all the time.

She doesnt drink a lot but when she does she is on the toilet loads, I mean 3 times in 30 minutes after a drink.

Some times if she is asked to add one to a number she looks at you as if you have just asked her the meaning of life! She is like this at home and at school.

Her behaviour always gets worse when there has been a change even if it is quite minor. An example is when she was in reception class her end of year report was ok, not perfect but nothing to work about. When I went to see her teacher it was like talking about a completely different child, she had been throwing tantrums and basically being a complete nightmare. The teacher asked if anything had happened at home and I told her the only thing different was that my parents had gone on holiday (she saw them alot) but they had got back the sunday before. She said funnily enough she has been a lot better this week.

She has has issues with inappropriate behaviour towards strangers to the point about 2 years ago we had to ban her from hugging anybody that wasnt family. Even now she can be a little on the too friendly side, doesnt seem to know when to back off and leave people alone.

Sorry this has turned out longer than I had planned so if you have got this far thank you very much. I might have missed some bits out but am at work and in a rush.

I am really worried and would be grateful for any advice given.

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CantSupinate · 01/07/2010 14:35

Does she have other sensory or balance issues? Funny about her clothes, maybe?

Ineed2 · 01/07/2010 17:24

I would keep some notes or a diary for a few weeks of any undesirable behaviours, if you are still worried then I would go to your GP [you can go without your Dd, but make the appointment in her name] Talk it through with the Gp and see what she/he suggests. If She/he comes up with nothing and you are still worried you can ask to be referred to a peadeatrition who may have more insight.

bank · 01/07/2010 21:34

please get in touch with your health visitor or school nurse, your daughter maybe perfectly normal in fact she reminds me of someone close to me, but you need help to support this "whacky" behaviour, good luck

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