Very good 2 yr old suddenly very disobedient

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My ds is 23.5 months and up until last week he was very obedient, and would always sit on the step to put his shoes on when asked, hold my hand when asked, go to bed when asked etc. Some things like going in the buggy he wasn't so keen on but I could live with that.

This past week I have just been tearing my hair out as everything I ask him is just completely ignored or met with a "no".

Is this some sort of phase that they go through where they are testing what happens if they don't do something? Please say it is and that it will pass? Is this the "terrible twos"?

Help !

Yup, terrible twos coming up, by the sounds of it. To be followed by the threenager stage. Do not despair: it is normal, it will pass and...they are actually still kind of cute and funny.

Yes, well had to bite my lip a few times to stop from laughing when trying to put on the stern mummy face . But have also been in tears twice .

Also coinciding with moving him from a cot to a bed so I think he thinks he is such a big boy - he is currently shouting for his dad and calling him by his actual name....!

totally normal 2yo by the sound of it

DS was a little later (about 28 months) but when it hit, it hit with a vengence

I've trained myself out of asking him to do things 'shall we go downstairs now?', 'would you like your breakfast now?' and say 'OK, downstairs. Breakfast time.' instead. It seems to help a bit, but I'm sure it'll be a short lived respite from 'NOOOOO'

Yep, completly normal Im afraid, I would go with jareth and say never make a request that can be answered "no", according to developmental theorist Erik Erikson [ I'v just done a course], it is very important for children to say "no" because it teaches them stuff, Cant remember what now but look him up it was quite interesting. I am currently working with mainly 2 year old and I have to say they are a lot easier than teens, enjoy him while he's little and remember it's not personal.

wow, i got something right! [magic dances]

also - really try not to let it turn into a battle of wills/argument because you will lose.

Just you wait until he learns 'why?'