Cheeky 3 yr old

[lostthewill]

DD has recently become very cheeky backchatting and her current favourite is Go away Mummy, but said in a nasty tone. I have tried ignoring, naughty corner from where she continues to shout it. Its driving me mad but don't really know how best to deal with it. I wasn't expecting this until teenage years.

Thanks

Part of it is adjusting the punishment until you find something that they care about. Withdrawal of toys or denial of treats might work where time-out doesn't.

And, because so many of these things stem from attention seeking, give plenty of attention for good behaviour. When your daughter is polite and cooperative you're happy to do things with her, spend time together, have fun etc. First sign of back-chatting and the fun and attention stops. Good luck

I agree with the positive attention for good behaviour which stops the moment the backchatting starts.

I would also personalise your response so it includes how the comments make you feel. talk about it making you feel sad, hurt, embarrassed if it happens in front of others, etc.

If she attends nursery tell her you're going to talk to hem about it because this would probably mortify her.

Use clear measurable warnings and the withdraw privileges if she continues. Make it something quite immediate so the sanction is associated with the behaviour.

If you knock this on the head now you should find teenage a little bit easier.

Thank you for your advice I will get the ball rolling today? Is this normal behaviour at this age? None of my friends seem to have this problem.

It's what they call the threenage stage isn't it? Perfectly normal: in fact, my dd is far less obnoxious at 13 than she was at 3. You may find the teenage years a comparative walk in the park.

God I hope so. I though it was going to be a very steady build up to have teenage years. I did not sign up for it this early on