School anxiety please advise!

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My DD4 has always found new situations difficult, though she does go to nursery 3 days per week. She had her first visit to school for an hour today and the mums gradually retreated to another room, I was the only one left. My DD just glared when anyone spoke to her and would not let go of me at all. I don't expect her to be a different personality and bigged her up for doing so well, but feel very teary as she just would not respond to anyone and don't want her to be isolated. I am jumping the gun here I know but what can I do to help? Or maybe others have had this and their kids fine now, please let me know!
Thanks so much

I went through exactly the same as you this time last year. DS was quite happy in Nursery but clung to me on the school visit, which we didn't expect as his Nursery is attached to the school and in the next door classroom.

We continued with the visits and just accepted I would stay. On the last visit I spoke to his new teacher about strategy for first day at school and we agreed she would have a teaching assistant ready to take him and I would just drop him off and go.

Well - never needed, he was ok about going. Over the summer we did try to encourage him to be a "big boy" which did help.

I'd have a word with the teacher. This is something they will have come across a lot of times and they know how to deal with it. My son's teacher's approach seemed to be quite a brisk 'big cheery smiles.. bye-bye mummy... now come and see what's happening over here'. And, however bad you feel and however upset the child, you just have to walk away and let them all get on with it.

Thanks for that both, I needed some reassurance as have spent most of the night up with a weepy child holding my face saying 'PLEASE my mummy, say you wont leave me at school!' it broke my heart. Feel so weepy today and not helped by DH going for the 'get a grip' and 'Whats wrong with her?' mode. He is having a go at my parenting telling me all the things I do wrong which makes me feel really low. Sometimes I wish he would understand that it does work well for him with my DD because he is a novelty value! Day in and out makes it more difficult. If I express a need for more help I am met with the much used line 'That's a mothers life for you!

Grrr, sorry for the rant. A fathers life could be having a close encounter with a frying pan