Why is this getting me so down?

[Donbean]

I know that you will all say that its normal behaviour etc etc but it so gets me down.
Ds aged 2, i feel like he is just so naughty.
I cant get a break from him, i feel like im constantly on the brink of smacking him, like his behaviour is so extreme and much much worse than any one elses kids.

my 2 yr ds is going through exactly the same stage! I dont know why it was so difficult to come up with his name be for he was born- in retrospect there are so many names that would have been so fitting, it seems at this stage, many of them hyphenated: ' stop - that-now', 'stop biting', look what you have done now', 'leave-your-sister-alone' etc. Some days I have wondered how I am going to cope. He is such a gorgeous little boy yet so frustrating, I don't know if it is a no 2 thing or a boy thing or perhaps a combination of both. No matter how bad the day get and they can get really bad when I see him asleep in his cot and its all forgiven.

Oh ghost i know that you are so right.
We waited for 3 years for our little bor and went through so much to get him that i feel eaten up with guilt that i am ungrateful and not cherishing his every move, but it is hard.
We always end the day with a cuddle and with us telling him that we love him, he looks an angel when he is sleeping.
We still both sit watching him with silly grins on our faces still cant believe that he is here and that he is ours.
However...then he throws a jigsaw at my head and i want to kill him!!!!!

BOY obviously mean boy not bor! DOH!!!

Boar or better still Razor back is apt for my little angel at times - how one so small can cause so much distuction is amazing. I believe if distruction and mischief could be measured on an IQ level my son would be a member of MENSA.

my spelling is crap these days - 'destruction' is what I meant to say.

This post might annoy people but from what I have seen, excessive attempt at 'discipline' at such a young age are often counter-productive. Tantrums: IGNORE THEM. Running away: STRAP HIM IN TIGHT! Throwing food: PLASTIC TABLECLOTH UNDER HIGHCHAIR! Smashing things: give him a space that can be enclosed and ensure that there is nothing in there you really value, then it won't matter so much if he goes on the rampage. Easy for me to say this, I guess, as I am pretty poor and just shrug my shoulders when my dd destroys my junky things.
If you have a garden and it's safe, could he become an 'outside' toddler?
My dd was like this at two, but now only six months later she is so much better: it does pass, hang in there.

Cath73 you make some very valid points.
All of the solutions that you list are common sense and of course they are all in place in my house.
(plastic mat under high chair, nothing breakable around and room to raz about).
I do disagree with your comment about "excesive discipline" however because i dont believe that we employ excesive discipline, i believe that it is appropriate to his age and having researched it, i believe it to be right.
I think the thing that is hard going is the fact that it is a constant battle, hard hard work but then i would be worried if he just sat and did nothing. Cant win in this game can you!
As kids my siblings and i had "excessive discipline" so i know what you mean and for this very reason i make every effort to not be like my mother.
does this make sense?
Also im quite curious about you comment on junky stuff..........

Hi, Ive just joined Mn and am so glad I came across this post because Ive been feeling so miserable lately. My ds is 4 and due to start school in Sept and hes just a nightmare. He hits other kids with no warning at all, he throws things, screams and shouts, throws himself about when he cant get his own way. I was told the other month by his playschool that he has behaviour trouble so I took him to the health visitor and the peadtrician but they cant find anything wrong. What am I doing wrong feel like im going mad. I am a single parent aswell so i dont suppose that helps cos hes so use to me all the time.
Any advice will be gratefully appreciated.

Debs

hey I meant 'junk' not 'junky' stuff! I'm not a junkie, I mean! (visions of toddler 'getting into' a stash or heroin are rather horrifying....sure it happens though.)

Oh ok, phew! that makes more sense!!!!
Didnt offend you did i?
Its quite funny, i didnt think that any one would be so brazen as to explain to some one that "oh, its ok, i just let my kids play with my syringes. Its clean and gives hours of happy fun!!!"