ds 2.4yo at playgroup - not talking- should I worry?

[santander]

His key worker came to me today and said that he still is not saying anything when he is there. He has been there about 15 times now just for 2.5 hours three mornings a week.

They say that he is always smiling and seems hhappy, but he just refuses to talk! He has been slow with his speech but hv said not to wworry he is fine.

Can anyone advise me, I'm really worried. He sseems to want to go to playgroup, he took a ffew sessions to settle in and stop crying but after that he goes fine.

DS was known as 'silentDS' by playgroup for the whole 2 years he was there....

I couldn't get him to shut up!

He is a perfectly normal 7 year old now, although a bit reticent with strangers (it took him 6 weeks to talk to his new teacher this year) - unless he wants to tell them about Transformers. Then they can't get him to shut up...

no, don't worry if he's talking to you ok. DD is 3.5 and has been at nursery 3 days a week for over 2 years but has only just started talking to the staff - and only one of them. She talks to the other children OK and talks without apparently taking breath when at home. HVs and staff at nursery have all said there's nothing to worry about - she understands, she CAN talk and she will in her own time.
I do have sympathy though as it can be very frustrating and you want other people to see your child as you do but you just have to ride it out.

My DD is now 4 and for two years everybody at the creche said to me "Oh my God she is so quiet".

My response was "well you should spend 10 minutes at home with her then!!".

Seriously though after a while if somebody talked to her one on one, rather than in a large group, she responded very well. She just didn't have a loud enough voice to compete with the louder little darlings in her group!

If he is fine at home then I wouldn't worry x

Oh and was told this week that she was put on time out for shouting at somebody in the playground. Very proud moment !

We had a girl at school, and all through primary she didn't talk to any of us - and I mean all through primary. She would talk to her mum though and family and some choice friends. She was known as a selective mute BUT I also think she was very very aware of a speech impediment she had and so this hindered her too, it also then became a habit and I think her Mother (who was very odd) practically encouraged it and never encouraged her in any way at all. her Mother was very rude indeed and I think all these things together contributed to it. She was painfully shy too and often looked unhappy and withdrawn - so a real difference to your DS. Besides, he has been attending the equivelent of 3 weeks part time - nothing at all so really wouldn't worry!! By the way my DS is 2yrs 9 months and can't talk - well at about a 12month old level, yet understanding of about 4.5yrs so I dread him going to preschool!!

Ds did this. Never spoke at the childminder's at all. And then refused to speak English at playschool (he is bilingual). Always very quiet at school too. But nothing actually wrong with him and seems quite popular.

I work in early yars and this is quite common. Ask the staff if he ever speaks to the other children, we have about 4 under 3's at the moment who don't speak to the staff but do speak to the other children. Not major conversations but hey they are still little.