3.5 year old fighting with 1 year old

[Clairemc07]

Help I am tearing my hair out. My son (3.5 year old) is constandly trying to push, shove, push his head onto the babies head causing brusing, take any toy off of him or even wake up in early hours of the morning to wake up my other son (1 year old). Its causing us real issues at home. I have tried the naughty step or putting him (3.5 year old) in his room, its not working. I have tried reading books to him about fighting being bad, its not working. I spend alot of time with him and he goes to pre school 3 days per week. We ensure he is not left out. But if the two of them are together all he wants to do is fight. Does anyone have any ideas - all welcome.

I, too, am experiencing this, so I know how draining it is. I, too, would welcome any advice.

My DS2 (three years old) beats seven bells of sh*t out of my DGS1 (one year old) every time they are together.

I look after my DGS1 three days a week while DD1 works, so I spend my whole time trying to distract DS2, bribe him, threaten him... anything. Mostly, nothing works.

DS2 is at pre-school two of the mornings I have DGS1. They third morning, DS2 is meant to have a swimming lesson, but now refuses to go in the pool.

I've noticed it's worse when there are other people about. It's almost like he has an audience and is shouting 'look at me' by hurting his DN1.

He actually calls it 'hurt time'. I have no idea where he got the expression from.

I have tried ignoring the bad behaviour and rewarding the rare moments of good stuff and the naughty step - he actually hits DGS1 and then suggests to me that he needs to go and sit on the naughty step.

Sounds like my house. WE have moments when he is great and others when he is so bad I give up. It is worse when he is tired but then fights going to bed. He is a really sweet affectionate kid at times, just had this dark side to him when his brother is around. Dosent help the situation that my 7 year old daughter teases him, there its like he must do it to the little one. If you get any tips do let me know. Likewise I will do the same