DS2 doesn't want to get any older. Help!

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I can't stop time. Whilst DS1 can't wait to be a teenager (he's almost 8), DS2 doesn't want to turn 6 in a few weeks. Why? Because 5 is such a nice number and he loves his Year 1 teachers.

So far, so 'How to talk' - ' I can see that you're blah blah ' but my problem is this: for financial reasons we've decided to do a joint party for the boys as there's only 3 weeks between the dates. Reptile man has been booked and DS1 wants to invite half of Year 3.DS2 has been very vague about who he wants to invite. And now I know why.

I really need to send the invitations out.

WWYD?

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Really? Nobody?

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Ummm, maybe just invite his close friends from school? He's very young to be 'getting' the concept of birthdays so maybe just sort it for him. He'll have a great time on the day.

Let him work it out, once he sees his peers moving on he will want to too.

Thanks for the replies.

The thing is, we need to get these invitations out by Monday at the latest. We are also limited on numbers.

Oh, I don't know. He's just so emotional and easily upsettable atm.

He is probably in awe of his older sibling and that provides enough for him/how can he compete with that? Is he made to feel a "baby" by him? They are at school together. He is a very little boy after all. Lots to process. Don't feel you have to prompt him to invite anyone to "party". Maybe ds1 arrangements should be a little ajusted so as to accommodate ds1, maybe it will be appreicated by some of the other guests...

Chatelaine. I'm not quite sure I understand your last sentence.

He is quite in awe of his big bro but isn't babied excessively by us: indeed, he is starting to hold his own in arguments and fights.

I'm tempted not to invite anyone but I just know that, come the day, there will be a huge fuss if he has no guests. And I can't afford to have two parties this year.

Hey 6 is a great age to be - you get a little bit later bedtime,you can learn some great stuff in school year 2 teachers are fab and everyone who is 5 with him will be soon 6 too,and you get 50p rise in pocket money!! maybe 6 is the year you ride without stabilisers,join cubs,swim 10 metres?

6 is great fun......

And the older you get the taller you get, and the faster you can run... or something. Do you have anything fun planned for the next few months 'that you have to be 6 to do'?

Is ds2 bothered about having a party at all? If not, maybe the party could be for ds1 and you could have a couple of ds2's close friends for a special tea on his actual birthday, or take him and his best friend for a day trip somewhere?