3 month old awake hours in night???

[lowlybones]

Once or twice a week my dd is waking in the night for a feed (as usual) but not being remotely sleepy when she's finished (not usual). I have no clue what to do with her then, as she doesn't then go back to sleep for about an hour & a half which is her usual 'awake time' in the day! It's not as though she doesn't know difference btwn day & night as all other nights are fine & I keep the room dark when feeding,don't make eye contact etc - so don't know why this happens (doesn't seem to be related to day sleeps - are pretty regular each day)or what to do.
I try putting her down in her cot after her sleep & she often coos for ages & doesn't call me back for about half an hour, then she cries so I go back, offer her more food, make sure she has no wind to come up. She gets to the point where she won't eat any more (bf) but screams if I put her down (can't be wind, has burped!)& only way I could get her to stop screaming last night was by turning light on & changing nappy. Then put her down again (more screaming), had tearful conference with dh & suddenly she stopped & went to sleep (til morning - phew!) Am feeling rather desperate about this now as my options seem to be 1. get her up & play for rest of hour & half 2. let her scream whilst I hold her 3. let her scream on her own in her cot
None of these are attractive options - any ideas???

thats a hard one, but maybe you should let her scream a bit, she knows your gonna go to her when she wakes up, you need to break her routine, the nights she is up has she fallin asleep early, or had a good sleep during the day, you may need to look at her routine during the day and break that up, so she gets a good night.

thanks Kitty17, yes frustrating thing is that I can't see any relation to pattern in the day (have neurotically kept notes of times of feeds & sleeps for last month & no obvious pattern to when these extended night wakings occur!) She didn't do it last night, thank goodness, but woke & cried out quite a few times (but not enough to get me in except for normal feeding times)so maybe there's something up with her at the moment? Am being optimistic (in denial?) that it won't be a regular occurrence but will definitely wait a good few mins before going in if I know she's not hungry as I think she does get upset / cross if I do go in but then don't get her up for play! Have heard of babies just 'being awake' at older ages but not this young...

AApparently they go through a fussy period right about week 12/13 it's a developmental phase which should pass. I read it in a great book called The Wonder Weeks which timetables all the growth spurts etc - both mental and physical - and how the changes will affect baby.

It must be true as my DD has been out of sorts for a few days now and she will be 13w tomorrow. Hopeflly it wont last much longer

That's really interesting curlyLJ, in fact my DD learnt to roll over the afternoon after that awful night, so maybe that's something to do with it? Looking back (and think was true of my DS now 4) there have been a few 'shifts' in my DD - just when I though I had her sussed, she changed - must learn to relax about it, instead of catastrophize...