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HELP! Screaming at night.

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Galena · 11/06/2010 13:08

Can anyone help/sympathise/offer suggestions? DD (14 mo) was born 3 months premature, and has always been a 'high maintenance' child.

She will not let me walk out of the room unless she is with her dad, she only began sleeping through the night a few weeks before her first birthday and she sleeps very little in the day. She's always been good with food, and was eating like a horse until a few weeks ago (and, interestingly, stopped sleeping through a few weeks ago too, although has been fairly quick to settle). She got her first tooth 2 weeks ago. She's had virus after virus although seems to have been clear (touch wood) for the past 4 weeks or so. 10 days ago she had her MMR jab. She's also not far off crawling (so lots of disturbances in the past month)

For the past week she's been waking about 4 hours after going to bed. She has been murmuring and babbling, and then gradually built up to crying. I go in, and get her out of the cot, and she snuggles in and begins to drift off to sleep. However, then she goes rigid, arches her back and screams for about 20 seconds. Once she stops, she relaxes and snuggles in again, just drifting off and bang - screaming, rigid, arching back. And so it goes on. And on. For 2 hours solid last night. If I leave her in her cot she does the same. Sometimes I put her down asleep and a minute or 2 later she screams again. She's also been off her food for a week or so.

She used to suffer from silent reflux where she would scream like this, but only during feeds. She's been off the meds for that since Christmas.

It's beginning to drive me insane - What happened to my little girl who knew, briefly, how to sleep through?? I don't think it's night terrors because she doesn't wake up screaming, it's a gradual wake. She also wakes later in the night, but then settles quickly.

Please help!

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JadoreParis · 11/06/2010 13:38

my DD is the same age and started sleeping through the night a few months ago. before that she was awful, waking up every hour or so and crying everytime i put her down. the only thing i found that worked was controlled crying.. i know its not for everyone though, try calling your HV and asking her for advice?

I found that once i stopped going to her when she started crying she learnt how to settle herself and became more independant. dont get me wrong though, it wasn't easy. i think i cried more than she did and i never believed it would work. but within 3 nights she was going to sleep in her cot on her own and pretty much sleeping through.

i could be wrong though lol but sounds v similar to my DD. she may have just worked out that when she crys she gets cuddles.

definately talk to your health visitor, it helped me!

good luck!

Galena · 11/06/2010 13:57

Thanks for that Jadore, I used CC to get her to sleep through in the first place. This feels different though, IYSWIM? It feels like she's either in pain or very cross (though what she'd be cross about in the middle of the night as she's just drifting off to sleep, I don't know!)

Part of it is the crying = cuddles thing, but I don't want to tackle that until I've tackled this absolute screaming. The thing is, she's screaming WHILE I'm cuddling her, and writhing against me.

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JadoreParis · 11/06/2010 14:06

it could be night terrors, does she ever cry and seem like shes still asleep??

if you're concerned about her being in pain talk to GP or HV..

failing that it might just be one of those things she'll grow out of!!

Rosa · 11/06/2010 14:09

Does she carry on screaming if you put her back down again and talk / sing / caress ?
My dd2 took ages to settle / go through teh night and now she tends to wake about 40-2hrs mins after going down - It is mega screaming after a slow wake . We thought it was because she couldn't find her dummy. BUt found that she goes to mega scary screams - We found that by picking her up for anything longer than a 'its ok , mummys here kiss ' it would get worse and she wanted to actually go back to sleep. However only if we were in the room . So we have gone from standing by the cot to moving a few paces away each evening / night and some days it is great and some days it takes longer.
This is our experience and I wish you all the luck in the world as its draining !
P.s MMR can have affects anything from 7 -14 days I believe. We had 3 days of temp days 7,8,9

Galena · 11/06/2010 14:17

Thanks for the replies - when she screams she is definitely awake.

Might phone the HV (although ours is not much use on the whole).

Rosa - yes, she screams if we put her down again. If I stand nearby the cot she creams, if I move further away she screams more! Today, for the first time, she's done it during the day too - Only for 10-15 minutes, but before her afternoon nap she was doing it.

She had a temp 3, 4 and 5 days after the MMR, and I'm fairly sure she's still feeling a bit poorly. Not sure if that explains this though - we've been giving calpol before bed, and it would still be 'working' when she wakes. I'm just so frustrated because I don't know what to do.

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