agressive behaviour in public

[smruti]

hi,
my son is 5 he has tendency to throw tantrums and dos not listen to me when in puplic gets aggressive and has an impatient behaviour

I would quietly talk to him when he's home and calm and point out that in shops, the shop owner has cameras to make sure that everyvody is being good and if he misbehaves, he'll be seen and told off. It worked for my son. He had great fun since then trying to spot the security cameras and doing lovely big smiles at them! If you can't see any cameras, just say that the water sprinklers are cameras (or anything that vaguely resembles a camera!).
I often tell the children if they're good they can choose a comic to carry around and then buy at the end.

I would quietly talk to him when he's home and calm and point out that in shops, the shop owner has cameras to make sure that everyvody is being good and if he misbehaves, he'll be seen and told off. It worked for my son. He had great fun since then trying to spot the security cameras and doing lovely big smiles at them! If you can't see any cameras, just say that the water sprinklers are cameras (or anything that vaguely resembles a camera!).
I often tell the children if they're good they can choose a comic to carry around and then buy at the end.

I used to threaten mine with Security guards too luciemule! Usually worked. I agree though, the key is not to take him on when he's in that state as it only makes it worse. Once he's home and calm, sit him down and talk to him. Get him to admit it's not acceptable. I think I asked my DS to try and think of ways I could help him to stop behaving like that, so it wasn't just me telling him off - also get him to accept some consequence if it happens again - might be no tv if that's a treat, or something small like that. Then if it does happen again you have to follow through.

hi,

I have tried to talk to him when he is calm but it seems like it does not work with just one follow up i think i need to explain this every day to him .do u think it would b right

Can you try and spot the triggers and stop it before it starts? So try not to go on and on about it, but if you can see he's building up to it, then remind him what the consequence will be if he does - so maybe no tv later, or no pudding or whatever small thing you've agreed on. Or if the shops are a particular place it always happens, then have a quick matter of fact reminder while he's putting his shoes on to go or something. Then don't mention it again until he starts kicking off..