What can I do about my 5 year old's answering back and being a madam ??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my 5 year old daughter is usually very easy going and although she has a developmental delay of about 18 months, she's always very eager to please.
Just recently though she's started answering back to me every time she dosn't like what I've said.
If I say something like " Lucy don't climb up the back of the sofa please", she'd usually just get down and some times say sorry. Recently though, she'll say "I wasn't actually, I was just resting against it".
I've also had to tell her not to do something several times before she'll listen. I said to her today "what part of no don't you understand?" and she said "the n" I'm just not used to it with her. What's happened to her ???
Is this just a phase they go through, and how do I get her to stop it? I've told her it's rude and she said " I didn't say a rude word". I'm not sure if she's coppying a girl in her class who's very much like that.
I'm not sure, but would appreciate any advice.

Well in my experience it just gets worse . Wait till the Hannah Montana hand is introduced or the word 'duh' is given in response to the most reasonable requests. Will await answers from more tolerant posters as all I can suggest is adoption or boarding school.

I blame school for my 5 yo's utterance of "Woteva!" . I do wonder where my cute baby went. I try to hang on to the times when she is quite civilised but I do worry about the teenage years...........

My nearly 5 yr old does this too. He will argue the toss about anything, even when it is obvious he is wrong and he and everyone else can see it. He has had me in tears today. I feel like banging my head against the wall!!

DS (about to turn 5) is starting this. He's going down the correcting route - if I tell him off he tells me I am rude, if I tell him off, he tells me he has had enough of this, if I tell him off he does these huffy noises....you get the theme

I think it's a phase - there is no answering the teacher back so I get all the pent up annoyance and energy.

I just reinforce that we do not talk to people in that way. Do not resort to things like "what part of no don't you understand?" as that is adult talk and IMO just invites backchat.

Thanks everyone. I suppose it's good that she's developing well, but it's just so annoying!
She dosn't do it at school, so hopefully will only do it to me.
I suppose now she's at school, we will get this. I've told her before not to coppy a child who uses toilet humor at the school. She said why not and I said because it's rude. She then told the child in front of her mum that "my Mummy says you're rude" I had to quickly say "no, I said using rude words was rude". The mother was looking at us like this .
It is a tricky stage, I hope she gets over it and dosn't become a brat.

all children go through phases of brattish behaviour; doesn't mean most of them become brats

imo the most important thing is to stay calm and slightly amused at such childish silly behaviour

my 10yo is in a very argumentative phase, can go on for hours

but his sister grew out of it and so will he