Nearly 3yo ds with new silbling due next week being TOTAL beast - will he get better?

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Or worse when the baby comes do you think?

Positive stories of boys who turned into angels needed. He is driving me up the wall. Once we're out it's OK but getting dressed, eating, leaving the house is a minefield. One step wrong and it's screaming and shouting.

Help.

I've read 'How to talk' and 'Siblings without Rivalry', I've got some gifts to give ds from the baby....

I just need to prepare myself if you all say he'll get worse. My other friends with two kids have all been fine, I think I am going to cop it for all of us.

thanks - I think! Help as in 'Can you get me a nappy?' etc?

Its a funny old stage the last stage of pregnancy for the older child.

I think they are often worried about the imminent change, what will happen etc.

I knew a child once who was genuinely terrified his mum was going to explode, which sounds funny but if you are 3 and its your mum it must feel simply terrifying.

Things have already changed for your older child, you are not as active and you have preparations to make for the soon to be here baby. There will be lots of talk about it. He may be feeling a whole raft of emotions and not understand what is happening around him. This may well be affecting his behaviour.

When I had my second, my first born was more settled afterwards, because, the baby had come safely and life was just carrying on and she could she that. The newborn bit is easier in a way because they feed and sleep and you can give your first born lots of attention.

Having said that my first born found it weird that everyone kept giving her little presents for being a big sister, she got confused and thought it wrong because it wasn't her birthday!

It will all settle down. Buy the pressie from the baby, but don't forget your 3 year old is only a baby too.

PS mine are now 13 and 11 and fabulous!! ( most of the time )

thank you for both of those, yes I guess the baby will have be 'told off' too so it's not always ds.

Helping and 1-2-1 time sound good. He goes to a child minder in the afternoon and we're going to keep that going so the mornings can hopefully be all about him.

As you say, hopefully once the new baby is here he'll find it easier to deal with.

thank you