Which one first - the move into a big bed, or ditching the dummy?

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DS is about ready for a big bed, all his friends have one and he's been asking for a while. He's a good sleeper and I think hope that he'll be OK in one.

I need to get rid of his dummy though, as he's totally obsessed with it, but I can see it's affected his teeth already.

So, get him used to new bed with the comfort of a dummy? Or ditch the dummy while he's still in a cot so he doesn't climb out and go looking for it?

He's 2.6 btw.

Ooh me too, same age same issues, ours just has dummy at night time but I want rid of it when he goes in a big bed really. Have been thinking of replacing it with a special teddy for the bed or something.

Will await replies with interest. Am inclined to do both at once but don't want him waking up the 6 month old!

Just out of interest, how do you know the dummy has affected his teeth? Is there some way to tell whether changes to teeth are due to a dummy and not something that would happen anyway?

My DD is completely incapable of falling asleep without her dummy, so I dread trying to get rid of it, but I really don't want it to damage her teeth.

I would do cot-bed first. Especially as you said he is a good sleeper...let him get used to it for a week or so, once he is then go for the dummy.

That way, you can lie on the bed & read, play & distract him if he gets too upset over dummy.

OR, you could try the 'if you give your dummies away, you can have a big boy bed' if you feel brave.

Running...the two front upper teeth start to protrude. This happened to dd1, we got rid of the dummies at 3 & it self corrected.

Running - his two front teeth are wonky - one of them has not fully come through and it's on the side that he sucks his dummy IYSWIM. I think they're getting worse, having looked at older photo's and keen to get rid.

I'm leaning towards getting the bed first - I think it will be the easier transition, and hopefully make him feel like a big boy. He's on the verge of potty training too -
Perhaps I should go for all three in a week

Why not do both at the same time? Talk about the dummy fairy coming for his dummies to give to the babies. As he's no longer a baby, he no longer needs a baby bed - so look what the dummy fairy gave him!

Whenever you get rid of it he'll be hard to settle for a couple of nights - and at least you can be at his level and sit comfortably beside him to comfort him in a big bed.

I've found so long as you don't go over the top with the sympathy for losing the dummy (NB - I still hug lots and sympathise with how hard it is btw - not a total cow!! I just mean being firm that it's gone and acting like it will all be fine) kids are actually pretty accepting of the whole thing - even the biggest dummy monsters!

Magdelena - yes, but he's starting to look like a rabbit..

Big bed first then. We're going to Ikea on Monday to get it. I may try the dummy at the same time, depending on how brave I'm feeling. Worth a go, isn't it!

Thank you for your answers about dummies and teeth. DDs teeth look even so I won't panic yet.

I do need to get him seen by the dentist, it just raelly looks like the dummy to me, and I swear his teeth are getting more gappy and sticking out more.

Even if it's not the dummy I still want to get rid of it, he's getting more obsessed with it as he gets older and it's just going to get harder as time goes on I think.

Thanks all for the suggestions. I will try doing both at the same time I think... erk.

We have just got rid of the dummy first with my DD. My theory is that she hopefully won't be up and down when she can get out of the bed and screaming for her dummy!!

FWIW the dummy was much better than I thought it was going to be and my DD was COMPLETELY obsessed with hers! We had broken nights for 4/5 days but she's not asked for it in a few weeks now. She also has a big gap and a pronounced lisp - not sure if related to dummy but didn't want to be adding to the problem.

Fingers crossed for the transition to Big Bed now....