Mummy I don't love you very much

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My 3 year old DS mumbled after the bath this evening. I couldn't really hear what he'd said as DD was being noisy and fan on so I made him repaet himself lots, thinking he was saying that he loved me. Then got him in to his bed room and he repaeted "Sorry mummy I don't love you very much". I said "Well I love you and I always will." Then about 10mins later I asked him "So you don't love me then?" he said "no".
I am gutted. Where this has come from I don't know? He's been really close with his Dad the past couple of weeks and DH is away with work for a couple of nights so I expect he's missing him. I don't bloody know. What do you think?

Don't take it to heart. I've been told that before. Usually I just get told that I am not his best friend any more or that I am a 'ner ner'. DH, however, is the dog's bollocks. Sigh.

I think he's a toddler. Sorry, but toddlers say things they don't mean, or understand. Of course he loves you, you are his world. Kids of all ages say hurtful things to their parents, but a 3 year old will love you unconditionally (he just might not always admit it!).

It's nothing to worry about. He's probably testing out the effect of his words. Or remembering something from earlier like you having the temerity to deny him some sweets. He doesn't really understand.

Your reactions was right. Don't ask him leading questions or dwell on it. A cheery 'well I love you' will do.

He adores you btw, more than anything. His words are just that, words.

DD last night btw (also 3) told me that she was 'fed up with the parents she had and was looking into new ones with a bigger house'.

I couldn't stop laughing.

My DS says things like this sometimes and I do as you nd say 'Well I love you.' I don't think he means it, he says 'I love you mummy' often enough. It bloody hurts though even if you rationalise it, so I understand you feeling gutted. Try not to take it to heart.

I am frequently taken off my DS (4.10) friend list.
It's a contant slide up and down depending on how much I've said 'No'!

Again - just go with the 'Well, you'll always be on my best friend list / love you'

Little Buggers

I know I keep telling this story, but I still think it's a good one.

2 yo Dd (in a temper): I don't LOOOVE you!

Me (in my best parenting voice): Well never mind, dear, I still love you and I always will.

Dd: Not when I'm grown up.

Me: Oh yes, when you're grown up too. You may move away from me and live in your own house but you will still be my girl and I will still love you.

Dd (with great emphasis): No. You'll be dead then!

Thanks guys, I feel much better having read all your kind words. As you say Little Buggers!

Ooh I feel a bit bad now. When my DS (2.10) says 'Mummy, I don't love you anymore', I say "Well, I don't love you!', then he suddenly does love me again!

We know we both don't mean it though.

PMSL at this thread.

My DS 5.9 loves me when he wants something or has been a pickle. He doesn't like me when I say no or tell him off. To him it's that simple!!

I am waiting for the 'I hate yous' and 'I'm going to live with my dad' to start

The best line I heard was from an elderley friend who had 3 daughters. When they said they hated her or didn't love her, she'd reply "well that's OK because I love you enough for you not to love me at the moment".

Think it's a good reply.

When DD1 is in a strop (fairly frequently) she will shout out, "If you don't let me blank, you won't be my mummy anymore!"
We'll see, dear.

cory Oh yes, when you're grown up too. You may move away from me and live in your own house but you will still be my girl and I will still love you.

U made me well up there

Don't feel bad. You can never tell what goes on in a 3yo's mind!

The other week 3yo DD told me she didn't love dadddy anymore. I asked why, she wouldn't say. So I kept asking on and off all afternoon, and she wouldn't say why, but insisted that she didn't love him.

Eventually she came clean. Apparently it was because he doesn't say 'excuse me' when he burps!

I told her that it was a bit rude of him, but it wasn't a reason not to love someone. She then decided she loved him again!

The funny thing is, I told DH when he came home from work, and ever since his manners have improved considerably .

I had a giggle when walking along the beach with DS the other day and heard this convo

girl (4/5?) : DM can I have an ice cream

DM: yes darling we are going to have a walk and we'll get one when we get back.

(ice cream hut is in car park)

Girl: I waaaaaaaaaaaaaaant one now.

DM: I understand that but we are walking first. (tried to distract with look at ..etc'

girl: I hate you.

DM: ignoring and walking

girl: I hate you I hate you I HATE YOU

DM: excellent dd (with a huge happy on her face)

The look of shock on the girls face was brilliant. So i've stored this retort should I ever neeed it!!!!

Helped DD on flying fox at park and was told it was the 'worsest' one she's ever had and she was only going to let daddy take her from now on. Result.