DS getting aggressive when over excited

[FickleFairy]

Hi All,

Wonder if you can help. DS is just 3 and in the last 4-6 weeks he has started getting aggressive with other children when he is over excited. He has always been incredibly gentle and really good at sharing but lately he doesn't want to share and throws a mini tantrum if I try to enforce it. I know this is an age thing and a phase which will pass.

What is bothering me more is he has started to get aggressive, mainly pushing, when he is over excited, he doesn't appear to mean it maliciously as he is giggling and jumping about when he does it, but it is upsetting the other children at nursery and who come on playdates to our house and is something I really want to help him overcome. He is quick to say sorry when he realises what he has done.

Any suggestions other than the taking him to one side to try and talk to him about it? I am a big book fan so any book suggestions would be great, along with any advice you can offer. It's something I want to try and nip in the bud sooner rather than later.

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Hiya, As you say this is something that will pass. You could try reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. His approach does make sense and is the opposite of the majority of parenting books.

Have you read the Elizabeth Verdick series?? See Amazon.

I would go for instant removal home. A pain for you put a real signal to DS. Bless him! What do nursery say??

Nursery aren't making a big deal out of it at all and they've only mentioned it to me twice, but as I have noticed it at home too I want to stop it before it gets out of control.

Will have a look at the reccomended books.

Thank you