Bed time gone to pot.

[Ras20]

My little girl is now 16 months old, she has slept through the night from being about 2 months, we never had a problem putting here to bed either. But, just recently she has started putting up a real fight when it gets to bed time, she has a proper paddy ' kicking and stomping about the room and scream so hard' eventually she just sobs herself to sleep.

We don't know how long to leave her to cry it out, or if if we should.

She is really well behaved the rest of the time responding well to everything we ask her to do ie. us a spoon and folk and sitting nicely at the dinner table.

In fact she has been so great that now i have a problem i honestly don't know what to do. please help all comments are appreciated.

OK, i just read something about controlled crying, i have never heard of this.

Has anyone every tried it and if so did it work?

I think you have been lucky up to now, she sounds like a gem.

Is she tired enough when you put her to bed? Perhaps she is just growing up and you could adjust her bedtime to a bit later. My ds always stays up a bit later in the summer.

Controlled crying really splits opinion, probably worth reading through some of the archived threads and then making your own decision about it, but I would probably avoid doing it until you had tried other things such as adjusting naps/bedtime etc.

I know, the thought of leaving her to cry is awful.

We have changed her bed time to 8 (which i thought for a 16month old was really late) instead of 7 and she doesn't have a nap during the day, she is at a nursery and she just wont settle, if she really is tired enough to nap she will have about 30 - 45 mins, but normally falls asleep in a high chair or in the ball pool.

And yes she is a Gem, am i being unreasonable to want her to stay that way?

Maybe she is overtired then? My ds1 goes hyper and won't go to bed without a fight if he doesn't nap. He is 3 and still needs a daytime sleep really. If he doesn't sleep during the day then he really needs to go down early - like 6pm.

Shame she can't settle at nursery - they have more luck than me getting my ds to sleep!

You are not being unreasonable wanting her to stay like she is!

OK thanks for your help, i'll try and encourage her to take a nap this weekend and bank hol,

only reason i didn't force it was because she got a good 13 hrs a night and was no trouble, maybe now is the time to make change.

The nursery know i would like here to nap but are stuck for ideas. In fact she has started poking at the other sleeping children trying to wake them.

Thanks

tell her in advance that dolly/teddy (favourite toy) has asked to be read a story by her, so you can get her into bed and hopefully she'll fall asleep or just leave her there is nothing you can do if they wont go to sleep except keep taking back to bed if they get out. No talking tho' just leading back!!!!!!!!!!!!!! good luck