DS (2) rejecting anyone but me

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I'm nearly at the end of my tether with DS, his behaviour is so hurtful to everyone else and I don't know what to do about it.
Whenever I am around every single time someone else tries to do anything for him he constantly says "mummy do it". If my mum or DP try to give him a cuddle he will push them away and come running to me.
DP is getting really upset at coming home from work and being ignored/pushed away and I hate seeing DS behave like this.

Is there anything we can do to try and improve things? I keep saying it's a phase but it's been going on for months and we've all had enough now.

Any help appreciated.

It does change. Hang in there

Any clues as to when? It's already been going on quite a while...

DS also 2:6, has started doing this in the last few days. DH was a bit upset too. We have tried DH and him having a special day together and daddy does stories and bed etc. I have just had another baby though so that may be our reason.

I would go out-even if it is only shopping and leave him with DP. Nip out at bedtime and leave DP to put him to bed-start by only going for a short time e.g. a walk around the block. Don't get drawn into upsets-if you get back and he is crying just keep calm, look surprised and say 'I just popped out' and change the subject.

perhaps give your DH some hugs too!

My DS (2.2) has been like that for at least 6 months. It's very wearing as you want a break, feel worried for your partner, then get frustrated with your partner if they get annoyed as deep down you know it's an age thing. Very hard

I try to give DS lots and lots of notice and repetition that Daddy will be home soon and is going to do bath, bed, whatever. If she says 'no daddy' then i start talking abou how excited he is to be doing it and he's really excited about reading, encourage her to choose the books he's going to read or ask what she'll do with daddy. seems to work as maybe it makes them feel like they're in control of the situation.

i think it's completely age-appropriate but some are more like it than others. My sister has two DDs. First was fine, the second very clingy and she brought them up identically. It's partly a personality thing I'm sure.

This makes me sound very laid back about it but believe you me, it really gets to me too and i can totally empathise. It will pass. Maybe when they leave home

I'm glad it's not just us . It's hard though as DP does already do a fair bit with DS, we take it in turns doing bedtime and DP does most sunday mornings solo.

DS is generally ok with DP or my mum when I'm not there but as soon as I'm around starts being arsey with everyone else.

Will definitely try the 'choose a book for daddy to read when he gets home' technique and will give DP lots of cuddles.

That's the same as me. If I'm around she's a nightmare but if I'm out of sight she's fine. On the two days I work I have to creep around the house trying not to be seen by DD so that DH can get her ready for nursery without her going nuts. Ridiculous really. I've literally sat on the loo before, having my breakfast!

It's amazing the things you end up doing that you never would have pictured before having children . I haven't eaten breakfast on the loo yet but I do often have to read a story if I don't want to be screamed at throughout, I'm sure it can't do my digestive system any good!

watching this one with interest as this is my DS too! DH losing patience and backing off a bit, which I think makes it worse.

Watching out for everyone's ideas!!

My dd (3.4) is the same. It's just a phase, I remember the others doing similar things in the toddler years. It seems to last forever, but will pass. It's probably due to some perceived insecurity so generally best not to make them go cold turkey. Only very gently encourage him to go to others, he will when he's ready, but don't make it stressful for you or him.