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Choice of treat/outing for 5 year old, better not to offer the choice?

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SolidGoldBrass · 23/05/2010 21:37

DS is 5.7 now and in a few weeks time we have a planned weekend away. Last night his dad and I were chatting and his dad mentioned another event that DS would enjoy and said 'I'll take him to [event] when it's on.' I said that we were already booked to go on the weekend trip, and DS dad said, why not offer DS the choice?
(To clarify a bit, the weekend away is something that I am doing and would take DS with me, the other event something that he would enjoy too).
I think that as he is looking forward to the weekend event and happy to go, offering him the choice of another event to attend will stress him - DS is a bit of a stresser when given choices, will pick one then change his mind then change his mind again and have hysterics - so would prefer his dad simply not to mention the other event. But am I being a bit selfish and should I let him choose (given that I can still go on the weekend trip myself anyway)?

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PrettyCandles · 23/05/2010 21:42

I would lean towards not mentioning the other outing if it's likely to cause more upset.

I, too, have dc who struggle to cope with choice and with the consequences of their choices.

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