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Have you ever thought. 'right I've had enough'?

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NigellaTufnel · 19/05/2010 15:31

DS1 is lovely, almost 3, affectionate, funny, and mostly a v happy little boy.

However, I am nearly at the end of my tether today. He has a massive strop everytime we are out and we don't go to a shop he wants, or I say we have to leave the park, or do anything that he doesn't want to do etc etc.

This is coupled with him being v young for his year, the last of his contemporaries to do anything - walk, talk, play with others, do any bloody thing.

I wish that for once, just once, he was not the kid a nursery kicking off as other mother's look on with pity. Or he was not the one not able to share. Or not crying when I leave. (He is fine once I go).
I feel like a totally shit mother.

I adore him from the bottom of my heart, but it's just so bloody hard sometimes.

Is this just me?

Today, I finally snapped and gave him a ticking off about all the tantruming, which I suspect will not help.

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hairymelons · 19/05/2010 15:44

No it's not just you.

Sounds like he's having a shit day which means, of course, you're having a shit day too.

He's not the only one that can't share,or kicking off, or crying when you leave, it just feels that way. He sounds like a typical 3 year old, no bloody perspective!

Have you got any wine in? Put beebies on, put your feet up and try to have a chill afternoon. Tomorrow will be better.

DawnAS · 19/05/2010 15:44

Hi there,

I'm sure that someone with more experience than me will come on in a mo and give you some proper advice as my only DC isn't quite one yet...

But you are NOT a shit mother at all!! We all have bad days and I am sure that you are doing an amazing job as you clearly love your DS.

Sorry that I can't offer anything constructive, just wanted to make you feel a bit better.

Chin up!

NigellaTufnel · 19/05/2010 17:09

Thank you very much.

I try v v hard, and normally life is pretty happy, but I feel that I have just hit the wall today. I am just fed up that everything is a battle.

I don't really shout at the DC. Have always really kept temper, but have shouted at him twice today. He looked at me like I hit him

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NigellaTufnel · 19/05/2010 17:11

Will drink tonight btw. If i start now we would be in serious trouble...

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Latootle · 20/05/2010 17:28

if he starts a strop tell him there and then that if he continues the strop there will certainly be no "shop" for him or maybe, is it so bad to go into a shop he wants to visit. but try telling him as you go out, that you will take him to his shop ONCE you've done your shopping. good luck

Mooncupflowethover · 20/05/2010 19:19

I think that virtually every day. Seriously.

hairymelons · 20/05/2010 21:02

Have just started getting DS to say bye to all the swings/ slides in the park before we go. Also get him to say goodnight to all his toys in the garden before we go in for his bath. Haven't had a tantrum about those (touch wood) since we started it. Seems he just needs to get his head around it, come to some sort of acceptance

Bit of a rigmarole just to get home/ inside but might be worth a try.

Hope you had a better day today.

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