Why, why, why does my 3yr old constantly ignore me!?!?!?!

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It is officially doing my head in! He has recently started a phase of putting toilet rolls down the toilet everyday. I have no idea how to stop him. I've tried bribing him with small presents at the end of the day if he's managed not to do it, telling him off when he does it and taking something away from him. Nothing seems to work and he keeps doing it. He has also taken to lying to me about everything which is also driving me batty! Coupled with my 5 yr old daughter moaning at me about everything from the moment I pick her up from school I feel as though I am rapidly losing the will to live . . .. . . .no-one can say I'm sure, just needed to vent!

DD (2.6) ignores me a lot and it is the one thing that makes me snap. Always when she is busy doing something she shouldn't.

So yes i completely sympathise

what about taking his favourite toy & putting that in the toilet ? or else making him take the loo roles out of the toilet ?

I feel for you, do something drastic & I'm sure he'll rethink this.

Could you give your DD a snack as soon as she comes out of school ? My DD literally barks at me the moment she comes out of the classroom, 15 mins after she's eaten something, she's almost normal again !

can you not just keep him out of the toilet? or put the toilet rolls where he can't reach them?

Actually I've just remembered something. My DD1 was doing something with something (a glove/toy?) repeatedly. I kept asking/telling her not to, which she ignored. I was so cross I picked up whatever it was & threw it out of the window. Of course she cried her eyes out, but never did it again.

DH & I had a glass of wine & a giggle over it.

my dd hasnt done this, but

i did notice in the Kleeneze catalogue a loo seat lock - yes really, there is such a thing, you can lock your loo!!!!

I think loving the sun has a good idea, get him to clean it up, or at least help - when DD had the habit of deliberatly spilling her drink all over the floor and table, i started by telling her off and that fell on deaf ears, then I did hte naughty step, that just made her cry. So then I just handed her a cloth and told her very matter of factly that she had to clean it up. After a few goes at that the novelty wore off and she doesnt do it anymore.

I make him take out what ever he's put in which he finds generally amusing. I can't put all the toilet paper out of reach else my daughter can't get it. He takes himself to the toilet when I am busy doing something like cooking dinner so I can't keep an eye on him the whole time. I have been thinking about a loo lock but a bit worried about locking my daughter out of it! I feel iggle piggle may be making a trip down the toilet next time he does it

Lovingthesun, I did used to take my daughter something for after school but everytime I got it wrong and she spent the whole time complaining that it wasn't chocolate or a doughnut! I love always being wrong in my children's eyes!!!!!

Ho hum, at least it's going to be nice weather today

put a bolt on the outside of the toilet door - VERY high, right at the top, or the little buggers will lock you in (I speak from experience!)

I used to have such bolts on the outside of most doors (kitchen, bathroom, understairs cupboard etc ) everywhere I did not want the children to access unsupervised for safety's sake (they have autism) doors and windows were always locked and the keys kept on me.

I realise it is more inconvenient for your daughter, but better to do something even if it means she has to yell for you to come and unbolt the bathroom door!

It is easy to secure your house. Have a walkround and do a risk assessment.

My DD (2.8) ignores everything she doesn't want to hear. I was worried about her hearing until I whispered "would you like a really big present" and she heard that very clearly. Obviously, she didn't get one.

I'm also becoming weary of the constant arguing. For example:

"No, Darling, those shoes are too small now. Mummy needs to give them to another little girl".

"No. They not."
"Yes, they are." etc

"No. They not. See?" Squashes feet into shoes and hobbles around for a while. Then takes them off when she thinks I'm not looking.

On a good day this doesn't really get to me. On a day like today, I'll be less patient than I'd like to be.

Can't help, just wanted to say you're not alone

if you know shoes are too small why not just get rid of them??

Do you know, it's easy to be a parent to someone else's child.....