Unreasonable 8 year old

[FiPie]

My 8 year old ds is causing me no end of worry. He just seems so unreasonable. He's always been a lovely child, apart from usual squabbling with his brother. He's a model student at school, the teachers all love him, he seems to have plenty of friends. Recently has started taking absolutely everything to heart and acting out in hard to manage ways - getting very angry if he doesn't get his own way or isn't allowed to do something, refusing to let his little brother share his toys, hitting his little brother if he doesn't do as he says... anyone got any advice? I try talking to him and listening to him, have asked if there are any problems at school (have been a couple of minor things but nothing ongoing). No major changes at home. Could it just be hormones? Sometimes he gets so angry he makes awful faces at us and starts crying and banging doors and saying he hates us and wants to kill himself.

Anyone had the same thing, or got any advice? Please?

Yep, I have the same thing with 7 year-old DS, an only child. TBH it's like living with a surly teenager. He says he hates us, hates himself, says he wants to kill himself. If he doesn't get his way, or is ever told "no", he becomes furious. I feel so sorry for him because he no longer seems to have any friends at school, and often when I pick him up his teacher tells me he has misbehaved, especially pushing or hitting other children. I dread play dates becsuse he aloways caused a falling out with the other chil....can't lose, won't share etc. I try to talk to him about how he feels, what is bothering him, but he often lies and blames other kids for things I subsequently discover to be untrue. I feel like I want to back him up and be on his side but when you discover the stories (about why he was badly behaved towards someone)aren't true, it's hard, not to mention embarrassing. Plus...this is the really hard bit, he can be so stroppy and rude that even though I love him to bits, at times I really don't like him and don't look forward to spending time with him the way i once did. I used to live for out time togther when he was little. I have to help him and get it sorted. I know he is a beautiful boy really...He is a bit better with DH, whom he seems - hurtfully!!- to prefer to me. But now wondering if it's time to take him to "see" someone. Would be grateful for any advice. Actually AM grateful just to hear I am not alone, as none of my friends' kids seem to be having this experience.

I had to give a sigh of relief when I read your two posts. I'm sorry to hear your distress but feel that at least I'm not alone, been up since 3am fretting about DS1's behaviour of late (8 going on 9)! FiPie, mine sounds very similar to you no problems at school that I am aware of and yet getting very bad behaviour at home. Which he blames on DS2. I even threatened to cancel his birthday party last night. I too would be grateful of any advice, do you think it's a phase? DS1 is not sporty and so am struggling to find things to do with interaction, am going to spend a lot more time with him over the next week to see if we can get to the bottom of it.