scacred of another child

[fellcreat]

My 5year old boy loved his sat morn tennis lessons until a girl from his reception class started going now he rfuses to go says he is scared of her and in turns out she used to hurt him but not anymore. I need to find a way to make him understand he can't let some one else stop him from doing something he enjoys but how? I have tried to talk to him but he just says he is scared in the mean time she gets to have fun and he misses out soo cross!!

My ds is 6 and he is generally a confident boy, but when taking part in group activities (in his case football and a few other clubs) he can be easily put off by the smallest slight.

I think at this age they are just not always going to be as confident as we would like. Not to say we shouldn't take their fears and worries seriously, but I think it is very normal to be a bit timid at first.

Instead of focusing on this girl and what she has done in the past, I would try to get him to focus on who he likes in the lessons (a coach or other child) and let him know that he will be missed by them if he decides not to attend.

I always try to see these incidents as chances for my ds to learn about other people -- but it can be difficult dealing with truely poorly behaved children.

I hope he does decide to give it another go.