is this normal?

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Sorry long post!!

my baby will be 13 weeks on monday, and i have noticed that when visiting friends/family-if anyone else other than me or my partner picks her up she cries so hard until i take her and she stops.

im off on maternity leave and do spend lots of time with my baby, my mum takes her once a week overnite and my partners mum every other weekend. This is the only people who look after her other than me.

she is ok with my mum but has her momments, but was even crying when both grannies visited the other day when they picked her up and stopped again wen I took her back.

I feel so guilty about the thought of her crying for me & being distressed when others pick her up when im not there, but I know she needs to make attachments with her two grannies.

is this normal? I feel so bad for her

It's because she loves you best.

It is normal. My brother's little girl is a few weeks older and has been doing it since around 12 weeks. They have preferences from birth but by 3 months they are very fixed and they are better at expressing them.

Chances are (as in my niece's case), she is better when you're not there. If you are there, then she will not settle for second best. And why would you at that age?

It is v normal and will pass. There's a lot of time for attachment to other people and you can foster those attachments well but the lesson that you respond, always come back and are a permanent fixture is v important in the next few months.

They don't understand object permanence at that age ie if you're not there, you don't exist. They don't understand next rooms or just down the road.

Give her time. She's telling you what she wants and all you can do is respond to it. It's quite frightening for them I think when they don't understand and can't move towards you of their own volition.