DS aged 5 having problems with a boy at school...

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So, DS is 5 and he has come home on numerous occasions saying a boy in his year is telling him he can't play with him and other friends at playtime. This boy was his best friend at nursery last year, but did go through bouts of this behaviour (I know as I worked at the nursery) but it seems it has started again. Now, I haven't made too much of it until now as I felt it was just the way young children can be and that DS was handling it in his own way, but now he is getting upset about it as the boy in question is excluding DS from games with DS's friends as well as himself (as this boy is playing with them)

I am going to see DS's teacher about it tomorrow but my problem is that this boys mum is a friend of mine. Do I speak to her about it too?

BTW, I asked DS if they had had a falling out, but he says that they haven't, it's is at the beginning of playtime that thie boy is saying he isn't playing.

My friend is lovely, but I do think she will get quite defensive (as she has a bit of a tendency to do with her children) and I'm worried it will cause a bit of conflict between us, which I don't want!

DS is no angel, but he is a very amenable chap who gets on with most people.

I'm not an all guns blazing kinda gal

But yes, my first port of call is the teacher as like you say a word in the ear may relly do the trick, or even a chat with a few boys about being kind to one another etc etc.

DS is defintely not confused and certainly not shy, he is describing it the same way as it was happening at nursery. This boy was quite fickle (for want of a better word) but it just seems like he is being quite mean at the moment, saying things like 'they are MY friends, not yours'

I just hope it gets sorted out!