Help im worred!!

[Mumof2x]

Hi, I love to get advise I think the best people to get it from is those with children themself!

Im really hoping someone can help me here...... My son will be 2 in July he cant really talk much he will say the odd word like daddy, ball, daisy. The Health visitor is sending us to speach theropy and im fine with that. The proplem im having is his huge tantrums..... I know all 2yr old go through this stage but the thing is he does it all day and night and not for things he wants. He can be playing or dancing around and then all of a sudden its as if a button clicks in his head and he will throw him self on the flore and scream and throw him self around. He can wake up in the night at say 3.30 and all you hear is him screaming and banging his head off his cot bars! Im finding it really hard to manage I have a 4year old who he wakes up during the night and its not fair she has to be up for school on a morning! Also hes funny with people and places. We go to the shops and as soon as we walk in one he will start kicking off. If anyone speaks to him even on a good day he closes his eyes and cries. He hates been out of his pram something I find strange and hes also really scared of the kids 50p rides!!!! My health visitors advise was to take him to playgroups......... I did this and he just laid crying and to be honest I felt like joing him! The looks I was getting were awful and I felt like screaming to them all you have all this to come!!! Any advise would be really good!! Thanks xxx

Couldn't ignore your post.

He is still very young. I'm surprised that the HV has referred him for speech therapy. A lot of children (boys in particular) and second, third children, don't become that verbal till after they're 2. I would be more interested in his comprehension. Does he understand what is being said to him?

As for the tantrums, that sounds completely normal for his age too. I know it's hard but remember it will pass.

Sorry, have to run as my 2 year old DS is currently torturing his older sister.

Yes I agree im not to worred about his speach, his sister was different she wouldnt stop talking at his age but I know all children are different! Yes he seems to understand us fine.
Im glad they seem normal because I was just starting to tell myself something was wrong lol. Again my daughter was different.
Thank you x

Tantrums are normal - but surely waking up in the middle of the night and banging his head asainst his cot is not? Or am I missing something here? I have a 2 year old btw!! Also one who does not speak and hes i 10 months older than your LO.

Have you spoken to your GP about this? Why does he not like to get out of his pram? I have to force mine in

They do suddenly have tantrums for no reason though, I appreciate!!!

Could you afford for him to go to a playgroup/nursery for a couple of short sessions a week or something - somewhere where you are not with him, and see how his behaviour spans out then? Or is he ever left with others and is he any different?

I would go back to the health visitor and ask for some support. Its too early to be saying if their are realistic concerns, you may find as he gets older his behaviour becomes less challenging.

Have you got a children centre near you with a stay and play session. These often have family support workers in the sessions who have vast experience with different children.
They may be able to suggest ways to cope until this stage passes but for you just getting support and telling others of your concerns will help you.

I had a challenging 2 year old boy who is now 7, he couldn't cope with noisy rooms, would totally flip out, he needed things in order, he didn't enjoy playgroup, he didn't speak until he was 3, then developed a stutter.

I was convinced there was a problem, but he is now absolutely fine, he has his funny ways, but don't we all!!

It really helped me to get out often, I went to groups, befriended people who would stare, asked for their support and got it.
Playgroup gave me the most support as they were with him and gave me strategies to cope and helped him.

He's actualy done this infrount of my G.P and he said to take him and speak to the health visitor and I did that but to be honest she wasnt much help. I know all children go through stages but I just feel that I cant controle him and its not a nice feeling.

Im going to groups with him at the moment run by sure start so im hoping they will help as they have also seen what hes like. Im not sure why he rather been in the pram its as though it feels safer for him in there.... I just took both my children for there photos taken and again he kicked off and I just looked on red faced... my daughter went ahead and had the photos done alone bless her.

Im glad im not alone and its nice to hear that other children have been the same and are fine now it does give me the hope I need lol.

Night times are awful, I think I get about a few hours sleep a night and my social life has just about ended lol. They both suffer from excema so that dosnt help them on a night but the way he screams and bangs even wakes our next door nabours up!!

Thank u for all the advise xxxxx

i tried to read all the posts but couldnt, but read the original post.
his tantrums maybe because f his age, but maybe because of his frustration that he cant talk yet, he is not able to express himself very well yet.
i am not against speech threapy, it may help if its sutable for his age.
good luck

Hi, it's tough when they go through these phases but hang in there. My ds hated mums groups, loud noises, 50p rides (which I had totally forgotten about it before I read this lol). In the end I gave up with the mum/toddler groups and waited until he was ready to socialise more. He is now 5 and like the op said a very confident little boy and has changed so much. A friend of mine had a ds who head banged tho and at this age. Does he nap in the day? if so Have you tried stopping this to see if he sleeps better at night? Maybe time to try a bed? Just thinking outloud.
Do you have a dd called Daisy? If so, snap!

Hiya, It really is great to know they grow out of this lol. He sometimes sleeps throught the day and other days he dosnt and every night is still the same. My GP has told me to give him piriton before bed but it dosnt work lol. I would put him in a bed but he ends up all over the cot and I know he would just fall out of a bed all night even with a guard I think he would still find the end of the bed and end up on the floor lol. Sorry im new to this what is a dd? xxx