DD age 6 - physical outbursts towards me

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Hi
Don't know if anyone can offer any advice. My DD who has just turned 6 has recently started to shout back at me, with real venom in her voice and kicking and hitting.
She seems to get VERY frustrated when things are not going her way, she can;t find something she wants, I ask her to do something she doesn't want to etc etc. I could understand if she was just "testing" me, and maybe she is but as an example tonight, I asked her to brush her teeth, she said "no", so I asked her again (calmly) and she almost spat "no", so I starting counting to 3 slowly, once I had got to 2, she started shouting at me that she hates me, I am the worst mother ever, she doesn't even want to see me, that I am horrible. I gave her 3 mins or so to calm down before I spoke to her and again asked her to brush her teeth and she said "no" again. So I asked her to get into her bed and said that she was upsetting me now in the way in which she was talking to me, her retort was "don't care" and then attempted to kick me. I held her ankles and swung her legs onto the bed and covered her over, told her I loved her and said goodnight and left her bedroom - by which time she was sobbing. She has now fallen asleep but I feel soo guilty and bad, I do not understand her at the moment - I have tried to talk to her and she responds and says that she gets frustrated but doesn;t know why, and she is generally a very loving happy little girl. Am getting to my wits end as this is now occuring on a daily basis - does anyone please have any ideas, advice, suggestions ????

hey alot of parents go through this you are not alone, my daughter has also been like this i am not sure if its more of a girl thing as the boys didnt! it does get better now 10. just have to be constistant iam affraid. i ususally talk to her in the morning about the night before as she is calm by then. a consequence for her action the night before has to be put into place ie no television or no after school club etc.she will often not have any reason why she got angry, the trick is not to keep confornting her whilst she is in this mood and to ask once then give a warning then walk away, and not get into it any further as they thrive on the confontation . i used to get quite upset about it all and think i was a bad mother but as i say it got better and rarely happens now as she wants to be socailising with her friends not grounded. hope this helps.