5yr old out bursts,how do you handle yours??

[ki28]

Ds is 5. in foundation stage 2,so he does fulldays at primary school and starts year 1 in sept.

No probs,sleeps all nite,eats fine,plays fine.

he can be cheeky but not naughty. id say once or twice a week we have a massive blow out over the simplest of things.

In general him being too loud. (hearing is fine)

Not listening

answering back

now i get that all this is normal behaviour,but how do you guys handle this while out and about?? he seems to have have all of a sudden gone from a young four to a old five. (if that makes any sense)

We do the step,but he says doesnt care and says he wants to sit there.

we take things off him and he is not bothered.

he has his activites stopped but doesnt mind.

Is there any other things that you do that i could try.

thank you

Tear my hair out and drink too much wine?
Wait for him to grow up,
Pander to his irrational whims "listen and respond to his needs".

I think it's easy to expect too much of them, so I'm afraid I am a bit in the pandering camp. Because DS is so f*ing stubborn, that punishment/leaning on him doesn't work, either.

Also, I bring a novel to read and just wait until he's shouted the world down/sat on the pavement long enough, and is ready to do something different.

When he's on form, DH is very good at using silly humour to get DC to snap instantly out of a snit. DS's reception teacher also had this magic knack, but his current one doesn't, sadly.

We do the step,but he says doesnt care and says he wants to sit there.

Maybe he's a very switched on young man who knows exactly what to say to disarm you.

Don't think of the step as punishment which he has to hate. If he's cross and takes some time out somewhere it will help him to calm down. If he's not cross time out won't help.

I would just withdraw attention from the cheeky behaviour. The second part of the process is really important. When he is being polite or cooperative praise him. Don't just do this when he's been cheeky. Do it several times every hour and make it a surprise as often as possible. Choose really tiny things to compliment. e.g. "Thank you for looking at me when I spoke to you then...." or "I really liked how you stepped back for that lady in the shop doorway...".

Children are very good at pretending that punishments don't bother them. It is a way of retaining control and making the punishments more severe will not help.

You might find that giving him opportunities to earn privileges by behaving well is more productive than taking anything away for bad behaviour. Also always work on the principle that if he's earned it he keeps it.