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Horrible boisterous behaviour between ds'. At end of tether. Any ideas please??

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thatsnotmyfruitshoot · 05/05/2010 11:53

ds1 is coming up to 5, ds2 is coming up to 3. They are both generally lovely, lively little boys, but seem to have gone into an awful phase where they bicker, shriek, push and shove each other constantly.

I can't keep them apart all the time, and it's driving me up the wall. ds2 is generally the one who provokes, and can run up to ds1 and wallop him with no reason at all. Unsurprisingly ds1 eventually retaliates.

I've set up the travel cot at home and put ds2 in time out at the first hint of argy bargy, but it's not as easy when we're out and about. There's no issue at school or preschool, it seems to be confined to home, but I'm not having it here either - it's incredibly wearing and usually results in an injury or something being damaged.

Can anyone help? Will this pass? I feel like I'm constantly disciplining and it's exhausting. ds2 has a will of iron and literally screamed for 45 mins last night when I refused him a biscuit once he'd gone to bed (he never has them btw, he was just trying it on..!)

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zen1 · 05/05/2010 13:15

Haven't got much constructive advice but just wanted to say I completely empathise! My elder 2 DSs (aged 7 and 4) are like this and it is completely exhausting. Mine start off playing nicely, but it always descends into an outright arguement, with one or other of them getting hurt. I feel like I spend all my time telling them off and usually end up sending one upstairs (they share a room) so I can have some peace. Like you, my DS2 is extremely strong-willed and will scream and shout (especially in public!) if he doesn't get his own way. I find the only thing that works re discipline is threatening to confiscate a favourite toy. I give them one warning, then the toy's gone for the rest of the day. Hard work though!

thatsnotmyfruitshoot · 05/05/2010 13:33

Thanks zen, I seem to spend my life saying "if you don't stop this/do that/get off him, you won't have ..." I just don't know how else to handle it!

I find first thing in the morning the worst, I completely lost it and bellowed at them this morning. I'm not awake enough to deal with it all then!

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