Dummy and sleeping advice please

[ZuzuandZara]

I have 13 week old twins, 6 weeks prem so 7 weeks corrected. They were born at 3lb and 4lb 2oz and now weigh 7lb 8oz and 8lb. They spent 3 weeks in SCBU and I was only able to breast feed twice a day for the first week or so. The rest of their feeds were through nasal tubes and the staff asked if they could have dummies as they were rooting when hungry and looking for some sucking comfort

A likes her dummy but can live without, M is an addict!

We have recently started putting them down at about 7pm, they feed at about midnight, 4am and 7am.

Problem is when we put them down, A goes straight off - dummy or no dummy and we normally don't hear a peep out of her until next feed. M goes down with a bit of encouragement, always with dummy and then wakes and whinges/cries continually every time her dummy falls out for the next couple of hours, then somehow is ok for the rest of the night.

Help [sad}

Everything is going so well with the bedtime routine and night feeds, this is really stressing me out. DH does evening duty as I do night duty (breast feeding) and he's up and down the stairs continually sticking the bloody dummy in - straight back to sleep!

Sorry for long post, thanks all.

As M has proven she can sleep without the dummy then maybe settle her thru the day without it and once that is going smoothly then don't use it at night.

Would you rather they both did without the dummy?
Hasn't there been some new (new since my DD) advice saying that its not bad, and can even reduce the risk of cot death to allow babies dummies at night?

Yes Money, I was wondering about that, trying to wean her off it during the day then at night, hard though because it does sooth her so well when upset or needing a nap and it's hard when you've got two crying!
Jaynie, really not worried about them having dummies, don't have any issues with them, just need M to settle to sleep without waking every time it falls out.
(I was wondering if the fact that there is two of them, (they are in a moses basket together) would reduce the cot death risk, for the same reason that the risk is reduced because they are in our room iyswim.)

I can't really say from experience, but my half-sister (long story) always had a dummy for sleeping and found it very comforting - but until they get the hang of putting it in themselves, it can mean more waking.
Reckon Moneys idea is good - try getting them used to day time naps without the dummy comfort first, easier for you too.

Thanks. Just spoke to DH who isn't stressed and thinks it's fine so maybe I need to take a leaf out of his book. Considering their age and the fact that we now haven't heard a peep out of her for about hour and a half maybe things are going better than I'm thinking. Also as you say, she will learn to put it back in herself.
That or wean her off it if possible as Money says.
Thanks both, will give it some thought.

You could always get this, had a baby with one of them and he never lost his paci we tucked it under the blanket.

A Wubbanub! I want one! At the moment, although 13 weeks she is too little to grab it (only 7lbs) but will consider one for future if she still has dummy. Thanks.
Right, off to sleep myself (without aid of dummy
Will check back tomorrow.
Thanks.

We used it from birth, worked brill.

Have ordered 2, a monkey and a bear! Thanks for the tip.

Pleasure.