DS so mean to DH - it is so sad!

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My DS (3.4) is a lovely little boy, but very rarely gives DH kisses and cuddles. He'll sprawl all over him on the couch, listen to stories, play in the garden, go out to explore etc, but won't kiss or cuddle him. He even wipes off DH's kisses

He is an affectionate little boy with me, and we are always having kisses and cuddles, but he makes a big fuss if I say "give daddy a hug/ kiss goodnight".

I can see that DH is upset by this. It hasn't just started, it has gone on for some time, and although I tell DH that DS loves him, I can see it is getting him down. Any advice?

Ds tends to kick against anything he feels has big expectations attached. Maybe this is the case for your ds?

Too much pressure perhaps, so he justs opts out altogether?

Stop asking him to and don't make a big deal of it.

My DS (2.6) is very partisan at different times of day - first thing in the morning he will utterly ignore Daddy in favour of me, even if DH holds his arms out and says "what about a cuddle with Daddy?" - he just says "no, mummy cuddle" and walks on by. But he does give him a kiss goodbye and goodnight. I can't think of anything that he always prefers Daddy to do - but he is very definite about what we should each be doing and who stuff belongs to whenever we are all together:
"No Daddy, that's mummy's blanket/cushion/laptop/drink" (whatever) and vice versa

thanks for these - think we'll just not make a big deal of it, and see what happens. I do think that if I am there, he makes more of a fuss, whereas if it is just him and DH they get along fine.

I also think that getting DH to shave his rough beardy face might help - not a proper beard as such, but rough for anyone, never mind a soft 3 year old!

You just can't take offence at a child's desire or not to kiss you. Just accept it and enjoy the positive time you spend together. (sorry, that was meant 'one should just accept it...' - not directed at you as I know it's your DH who is upset!)