my sons shocking SATS story.

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So the teacher called me in when I picked up DS on friday. She told me his Year 2 (age7) SAT results show he is very intelligent, but he had written a story about people killing themselves and then being buried. She told me she found it worrying, as in all her years of teaching she had never seen a child write anything violent. Now I'm all worried somethings wrong with him and maybe he needs psychological help or something.
Another thing is he constantly comes out with rude words, toilet talk etc.. he thinks its so funny, whereas I really dont, and its causing the little ones to copy him!
Is any of this normal or do I really have a 'case' on my hands?

I used to do this too was also told I was very good at writing story's but my mum was also informed that it could be worrying I was 8 at the time. I believe I got the idea from catching site of a film on tv that my babysitter had on when I was sleeping however I woke up and saw a little, mine was about a man murdering his wife and I have always preferred to write a darker story.

I would investigate but I would not be over worried he could have got the idea from a news paper a magazine anywhere some people just prefer to write like that from a young age.

This surprises me as I was once told by a teacher that most boys stories revolve around monsters , battles , skeletons, death etc.
I wouldn't worry.

I wouldn't worry too much. All children go through a phase when they think that poo and bum are just the funniest words ever. Normally hits them in infants and they tend to grow out of it when they get in to juniors.
I work with 2 and 3 year olds and sometimes hear one of them talking about death and killing things. Normal. I remember when DD told DH she was going to cut off his head with a big sword if we won the lottery. She was about 3 at the time.
I do think that children need to be able to explore death and dying. it's a very natural process. it's how children make sense of the world. No subject should be taboo with children. Children are like sponges, they soak everyhing up.

Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I admit when she told me about the story I didnt think it was a big deal. he told me he once saw a clip of a movie where they where fighting with guns. I think kids have wild imaginations.

shes just informed you he's intelligent then seems shocked that he's exploring more adult topics?

Sounds normal to me bum, farts, killing and burying yes he's a boy all right!!

lol, at 10 i wrote a story about going cold turkey with a drug addiction. (we had had a 'no drugs' talk at school and had been asked to write a story). i researched it very thoroughly (at the library).

it caused no end of bother. but once all the hoo ha died down they decided to use it as part of the teaching package for the following year.

the bottom/ toilet stuff is entirely normal , and i would suspect the other was just something that caught his imagination and he embellished, tbh.

(was this the one where they wrote from the picture? did you see the picture - any clues?)

I got called into school because DD had written about death/dying aged 9 or 10. Was there anything sinister going on at home, etc etc. No, she just had an active imagination. Was I sure, what could have triggered this. Was she happy, etc etc

And my son for a dare once, aged around 7 wee'd against a tree in the playground. I was hauled in and grilled, did this sort of thing go on at home etc etc. No, my son was just a cheeky fearless and rather naughty boy!! I used to find that the teachers who had not had kids of their own were much more concerned about such things.

I wouldn't worry. A while ago I was helping moderate yr1 stories. There were no names on them and yet we found that we could tell which were boy's stories. I can't remember the exact title but they involved a castle and a dragon. The girls had princesses and the dragons tended to be friendly and the boys had sword fights and generally killed the dragon-in a blood thirsty way!

Year 2s haven't done their SATS yet this year so how can he have the results yet?

Actually I am assuming all schools do them at the same time but i'm not sure if they do. Anyway I wouldn't worry about the story it just sounds like he ahs a vivid imagination.

SATs can be sat any time between april and june, most schools choice may.

anyway....

my ds1 also year two is obsessed with anything gun like. Anything is a gun - a twig, lego, even sandwich crusts!! all his stories are gun themed - with a strong association to starwars and ben10. His friend even drew for homework an underwater fantasy scene featuring a shark with a machine gun strapped to its back

Yep, lots of gun/killing play here too (DSs aged 7, 6 and 2).

You should have seen DS1's Valentine's Day card to DS2: lots of love hearts etc and drawing of person shooting another person, complete with head exploding and blood and guts everywhere .

They are obsessed - I hope it will pass; does not gel well with my pacifist views...

TBH, I wouldn't worry too much although I understand how your DS's story could be a bit disturbing to a teacher (young? inexperienced per chance??)

LOL at shark with machine gun, my son would love that idea...
Actually, the teacher is middle aged, with grown up kids of her own. Maybe somethings up with all the other kids in the class....

When I was about 14 we had to write an essay, after being given the title "Alone".

Well, I wrote mine about being suffering child abuse at the hands of my Dad - all completely made up.

Anyway, I got a great mark and was asked to enter it into some competition. Told my parents and I don't think I have ever seen my Dad more angry/upset about anything - he assumed we would have social services round any minute.

What was I thinking?!

Oh, and violent stories - we recently went through a load of DH's old schoool books that MIL had given us.

I was sobbing with laughter as EVERY single composition ended up with someone being shot, falling down stairs and breaking their neck, being killed by aliens. Even stories about what they had done at the weekend.

If I ever feel a bit down, I go and read them again to cheer myself up as they are utterly hilarious.

We have a family joke about DS's stories, we always ask him "Did they all die in the end?!"

He's 13 now and they just all die in more imaginative ways (although its often zombie related).

"SATs can be sat any time between april and june, most schools choice may."

Actually, they can be given any time from September onwards, but yes, most schools use them to help confirm the final teacher assessment (i.e. to tell them what they already knew anyway .)

"Year 2s haven't done their SATS yet this year so how can he have the results yet?"

In Y2 the teacher assessment is ongoing, so the teacher will know exactly where the op's ds is at any one moment. The same could also be said of any other school year in most schools, though - any decent teacher worth their salt knows what their children can and can't do at that point in time.

Op, I wouldn't worry, lots of children (and yes, mostly boys) go through a stage like this. It isn't anything to be worried about, imo.

Whenever the primary school stages a book sale, the tables are filled with Horrible Histories, all about people dying in gory ways, and all clearly designed to appeal to the 7yo mind.