Help - toddler still glued to my side!

[mammamia25]

I've posted before about my dd, who's always been very clingy when we're out, and had advice that things can change around 2.5. She's now 2.9 though,and at toddler groups still won't move without me going along with her and playing alongside her. If we do get separated and another child gets in her way she becomes really upset, even if they don't actually collide. Anyone going through similar, or gone through it and seen improvement? As we get closer to pre-school time it really worries me how she'll cope, and her being a target for being pushed around by the tougher kids. I was a shy child so I can see she's taking after me, but I'd really like for her to develop more confidence than I had - and at the moment even toddlers a lot younger than her are much more confident.

I used to be the only Mum at 5 and year olds parties with my clingy son. One day I asked him "What do you think will happen if I leave you for a few minutes" he answered "That's what I don't know". I saw it from his point of view and decided to attend parties (had to help the hostess to look good!) until he said he didn't want me. He has turned out to be pretty bright. I think you just need to withdraw v slowly with your child's agreement. This will give her confidence.

BTW he's 18 now and I don't think I'd be welcome at any parties he goes to!

Thanks - I do try to not make an issue of it with her, but I think yes, I'll be the only mum at 5 yr old parties too! She's also stopped joining in at singing time, which she used to love (on my knee of course!), and absolutely refuses to do any actions/sing. She seems very self conscious, which is hard to see when other kids are happily joining in without a care in the world.