3 months old and already won't go to Dad!

[Sella]

Help please! DD3 is 3 months old and is already unbearably clingy to me. She is exclusively breast fed and does feed a lot so obviously she is with me a lot but on the odd occasion where I have the opportunity to do something else - like this afternoon when I planned to plant some veg seeds - she just won't go to her Dad. She is very tired and won't go to sleep on her own but having to feed/carry/sleep with her 24hours a day is starting to take it's toll. Me and DH now sleep in separate rooms and are more like housemates than a married couple, plus he is convinced that all she does is cry and that she hates him! It was like this with DD2 until she started walking and decided she didn't need me that much anymore - can I last that long...?

Any advice?

Are you adverse to bottles? You could express and let him give her bottles to try and build a bond up.

Not against bottles per say but had to top up for a couple of weeks when she was 3 weeks old and noticed very quickly that she preferred them to bf (lazy little darling!) so would rather steer clear, plus had a big battle with DH and DM about bf and getting supply established so I think I would rather have a clingy baby and no life than bottles at this point. Does that sound daft? Plus I donate milk to the milk bank so if I were to express for DD I would probably have to stop doing that as I wouldn't be able to do both, can only do that till she's 6 months so seems like a small sacrifice. I sound like I'm contradicting myself don't I?!

thanks for quick response by the way!

Not at all! I don't have children so I can't understand what's it like, I'm just coming at it from a nanny's pov

Hopefully someone more helpful will come along hehe

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