Feel guilty for Force feeding my almost two year old

[joooce]

My dd is almost always a good and varied eater. We eat as a family and she will try most anything. However due to work she's at her grans two nights a week. Where she refuses to eat all but snacks and breakfast. I am always fairly strict with her eating- if she refuses what she's got she doesn't eat. This has always worked. Today however because i'm so stressed that she's coming back from her Nans having eaten no fruit or veg in days just porridge bread and beans, when half way though her meal she began a full refusal tantrum i flipped. I shouted and bawled at her tried to force her until we both ended in tears. We hugged i realised she wouldn't eat the rest because she had had enough and was ready for bed. I feel so bad now. Thats it really. Just came to vent.

Tomorrow is another day

Agree with Irons. Draw a line under it, try to ignore her tantrums, make a big fuss over how much you are enjoying your food, and nick stuff from her plate.

You've hugged her, she's ok, she's not hurt. Don't worry. And grandparents do find it hard to be strict sometimes - mum says she's shocked how different it is to being a parent.

Never mind.

As above.

Yes I agree with Habbibu, don't be too hard on your mum. It is impossible for her to be 'you' when you're not there and imo you have to allow things to be different.

I think perhaps it may help to look at your daughter's food intake over a week not each day. Over the week, I am sure that she gets enough fruit/veg etc. What she gets at your mums sounds fine, when you put it in the context of a full week during which she is also having 5 days eating I presume, good amounts of fresh stuff.

I think if you look at it week by week not day by day, it will help you to lighten up and for it not to matter so much whether she eats the contents of one plate.

Don't beat yourself up about it! And yes, what they take in over the course of a week is more important than a day or two.