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babber · 20/04/2010 13:48

I've never posted on this particular board before so apologies if this is asked regularly on here... but i don't know anyone else in rl who has been through this so thought i'd ask on here...

basically DS (15mo) has recently (last few weeks or so) become sooo clingy with me, but particularly it seems, when DP is around... he cries when he gets in from work, wont let him pick him up, bathe him, dress him, chnge napy etc without screaming. DP tries his hardest but ds not interested. Thing is, when i am at work (1 day per week) and DP stays at home, DS is fine, although apparently says mama a lot.
I'm still BF'ing morning and night so he is obviously going to be more attached to me at the moment but i just wish I could get him to accept DP more, then i can have a rest from some of the jobs! DP is beginning to feel a bit upset about it as well and can't help taking it personally as DS is not like it with anyone else to the same extent.
What should we do... get DP to do things with him, even though he cries, so he gets used to it? or shall i just carry on being chief baby carer for now and things will all be okay in a few months? should i try and leave them on their own more often for more quality time??? any suggestions or just reassuarnce would be good, would like to be able to tell DP that its normal and that it doesn't mean he won't want to play football down the park with him! thanks x

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
NobbyD · 20/04/2010 15:54

Hi babber, don't worry my ds sound the same! Mine is 22 months and if I am around then it is all mummy mummy mummy. DP can't event get a hug or kiss. He just wants mummy - and I stopped breastfeeding at 6 months!

Its one of our little luxuries and also our burdens I'm afraid. Dp even sees more of ds than I do (both work full time and dp does the nursery drop off and pick up) so its nothing to do with time spent.

Ds is apparently fine when he knows I'm not there. But if I am and even if I go to the toilet upstairs he'll be clinging onto the stairgate calling for mummy and slapping dp away.

I would say its normal and just continue in getting dp and ds doing things together. Why don't you go for a walk while dp gives him dinner so dp does more of the baby caring? If you are around then ds will just want you to do it all, whereas if you aren't there then ds doesn't have a choice of carer!

Hope that helps!

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