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Beauregard · 18/04/2010 22:15

For the last 8-9 weeks i think we have turned the corner with dd2(4)
I have posted on here for help in the past because i had run out of ideas and patience with her behaviour.Everything was an issue for her and resulted in tantrums or drama.We were restricted as a family because she made it impossible to go anywhere and enjoy it.She wouldnt even sit for 2 minutes to listen to a story.And tbh i did not enjoy her company at all.
She has gone from a totally unpredictable and highly demanding little girl.To a sweet kind and funny gorgeous girl.
The change in her is remarkable and we are keeping everything crossed that it continues.
We always had trouble giving her positive praise because she was always naughty but we started by praising minor things(eg good listening) and built it up.I have also tried not to shout at her as this made her worse.Which may seem obvious but when you are at the end of your tether...
Also she doesnt attend preschool on a monday so i have dedicated that to mommy and dd2 day.She seems to be more aware of her emotions and i believe now that she had a real problem with expressing her feelings.We still have the occasional self harming episode but we try and deflect this onto a toy.
I cant stop staring at her because she is so wonderful but i feel sad that now we have 'found' her(may sound over the top but we are so pleased) she will be off to school in september.
I hope it continues because i really feel like i know my little girl now
Anyway i will shut up now but just wanted to offer some hope to others experiencing similar problems.

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walkingonthemoon · 18/04/2010 22:17

You sound releived and happy. Glad for you. Sounds like with your love and hard work, all be be right in the end...

Walking.x

Beauregard · 18/04/2010 22:22

Thankyou i do hope so.

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EmilyStrange · 18/04/2010 22:23

Very pleased for you. Can I ask how you managed to stop the shouting as I could do with some tips and you sound like an inspiration.

Beauregard · 18/04/2010 22:50

Well i always run out of ideas when dealing with dd so i always used to shout out of frustration.And she in turn would become more hysterical.Now i just try and remember that it will only make her worse and talk to her or offer a cuddle and then a chat about what happened.I dont profess to be a non shouter for ever more but i am making a real effort to reduce it.

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