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[olijackmum]

I have a five year old boy , who is full of anger and I dont know how to deal with it anymore, i am at breaking point and beginning to think there is something wrong with him , he is very hyper and lacks in concentration , but also when you say no to him or if something doesnt go his way he gets very angry and growls at us and kicks out and is just so full of aggression, deep down he is a very loving boy . he is like jekyl and hyde and it is now causing a rift between myself and my husband.
he had to be rescuitated at birth and was in speacial care and i keep thinking is it something to do with that . I am desperate fro help and advice as whatever I do doesnt work with him.

No advice I am afraid. We have a dd (8.11) who is very similar. When she started the growling it was copying a friend of hers. she became really agressive and physically violent. From observing her new friend, it seems she was copying her. Both girls are only children, but friend gets away with murder (there are some issues there as well). Our approach was to tell dd that she wasn't a dog and we wouldn't tolerate it. Every time she grr'd us or kicked she would lose a privilege. Luckily for us she was older than your ds and therefore more able to understand consequences.
Does he have a new friend that he could be copying? Our dd has been seperated from this infulence and luckily her behaviour has improved. She's no angel but at least she doesn't grr us now.

no he isnt getting it from anyone of his friends , he seems to be worse when he has had a bad day at school , I have tried cutting treats out, sending him to his room until he has calmed down but nothing works. You name it I have done it I am thinking of seeking professional help and going to the doctors .
it is wearing me out and it is efeecting my older daughter as well as I seem to be spending all my time upset or spending time with my son trying to sort him out

How is he at school? Can he concentrate and curb his aggression there? I would make an appointment to speak to his teacher to explain what is going on at home and to see if they can offer anything as to why he is behaving like this. My sympathies are with you, I hope you manage to sort it out.

The teacher commented at parents night that he struggles to concentrate and it is effecting his school work but I never mentioned the aggression to her