Out of control 5 year old

[Lilbette]

My two boys are 5 and 6, but I can't control the 5 year old's behaviour!

He is fine at school, but the teachers say he refuses to do any work and just wants to play, but that is nothing compared to home.

This morning he drew all over the living room walls (every one) with black felt tip and crayon, he completed destroyed the dining room, even tipping the table, flooded the bathroom, blocked a toilet with soft toys and pee'd in his bedroom, the dining room and the hall. When I was clearing the furniture ready for painting the living room as the pen wouldn't come off, I found poo behind the television cabinet.

I have tried the usual techniques, that work fine with my older son, like naughty step, confiscating toys etc, but he doesn't care. He stays out the punishment then carries on as before.

I'm reaching the end of my tether with him - it's like living anarchy!!!

Any advice or ideas, I'm sure I'm missing a trick with him!

How can the teachers say he is fine at school if he won't do any work ?? Is it new or has he always been like this ? I would be very worried if this was my child, especially the pooing/peeing part. Have you talked with your GP about it?

Apparently, they don't expect the children to do much work in reception, when he does work he does it as quickly as possible then goes back to playing with his friend!

It is a new thing with the peeing/pooing element, my GP says it's a phase - very helpful I thought. He has always been a bit of a handful, but never quite so bad as recently. Nothing's changed at home of late, I don't know what is triggering it, he just says that "it's what I do best" when I ask him why he's done something.

Can't believe I tried reasoning with a five year old!!

Wanting to get back to playing with his friends is normal ... wouldn't we all. It's the amount of destructive behaviour that would concern me ... do you think he's competing for attention with his older sibling? If GP feel the 'soiling' episodes are a phase, then they must see it often and know kids grow out of it. I didn't mean to sound too alarmed, it's just that you sounded pretty desperate and I was a bit shocked with your post. I have to admit, I have a ds with a dx of ADHD and his behaviour has never been this bad isn't that ironic !!

I know, he is similar to a tornado in destructive capabilities. He doesn't seem to have any respect for anything/anyone!

Today is not going well... he is currently banished to his bedroom for pulling the tail off the rocking horse.

Maybe it is extreme sibling rivalry - not easily solved!