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Where's our angel toddler gone!??!!!

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mum2phoebs · 30/03/2010 19:44

We have never really had a problem with our 3 1/2 year old daughters behaviour until a fortnight ago!

She is no longer going to the same childminder so we expected a bit of disruption, but she seems quite settled at the new minders who she has been to a few times over the years.

All of a sudden she has been throwing tantrums, pinching, pulling hair and biting. Since the clocks went forward she has now decided to not want to go to bed and keeps coming down the stairs and playing up. Her room is as dark as it usually is but she knows it's still light outside!

To top things off we have a new baby due to arrive in 2 weeks! So we understand she may be a bit unsettled but didn't expect her to start misbehaving like this!

We have tried reward charts (which are empty!), ignoring the tantrums, naughty step, bribes, etc... But how do you ignore a tantrum with a 3 year old hanging off your hair, pinching you!?

It doesn't take much to wind me up especially at 38 weeks pregnant, but she's even winding my usually cool calm collected husband up now.

HELP!! Any advice/suggestions welcome!

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LargeLatte · 30/03/2010 21:26

She's testing you and she's stressed about the new baby. Give her all your love and cuddles. when she is physically hurting you don't ignore it - just keep removing her, make sure she is somewhere safe to calm down, then hug her and let her know you still love her. Ds1 threw some spectacular behaviour at me when we had a changes in our family and he was that age. Its nothing you are doing wrong. She will work through it and you can just be there for her. I know that sounds a bit wishy-washy but I'm sure this phase of bad behaviour will be short-lived and when the baby comes and she can see you love her more than ever then things will settle down.

LeninGrad · 30/03/2010 21:29

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doozle · 30/03/2010 21:34

It probably is the new baby tbh.

But also wanted to mention - could it be illness? DD turns into the devil incarnate when she has an ear infection. The problem is they don't always show obvious signs like a fever with something like this - so it can be a bit insidious and hard to realise that's what's going on.

Anyway, just a thought.

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