2 year old. Removal of dummy

[CJanaway]

Hello,
It's day 6 of operation remove dummy and night sleep times are just a nightmare.
My 25 month old only ever used her dummy for sleeping and more recently only for nightime sleeping in her bed and not for day time sleeping (different story but she now sleeps on the sofa during the day for an hour) so we decided to take the plunge.
The dummy was put into a bag for the dummy fairy to take to her new cousin and when we returned from a shopping trip later that day she had been given a new toy. Worked fine until the night came but all in all the first 2 nights were OK. Night 3 we introduced stickers for going to bed and no crying. This seemed to work OK but now days 5 onwards she isn't settling to sleep until around 9pm and waking up around 5am.
She always had a blankie so nothing has changed there but I'm starting to think this is just too stressful for her and maybe we should consider changing back to the dummy and let her decide when enough is enough.

I'd appreciate any support if possible as it seems most people only have a few nights of unrest but this seems a little too much.

I think 2 is too young for dummy fairy. At 3 they really get it and its alot easier.

I have to admit to taking the easy route of allowing DS a night time dummy until he was 3.5yo. He slept like a dream with it and after being mentally scarred by newborn sleepless nights I figured it was a small price to pay for sane parents and a well rested (mostly) good humoured child.

Our dentist said the dummy was causing no ill effects. In his opinion the softness of a dummy is less damaging than a rigid thumb. However, I realise this is different to the opinion of some dentists.

I absolutely dreaded taking it away from him at 3.5 but it was fine. He was old enough to talk it through, to understand what was happening, and to be motivated by a reward .

Pre DS I was a fully paid up member of the dummy snob brigade. However, I wouldn't change the way we did it as I believe the comfort that he gained from the dummy contributed to him being a good sleeper.

Completely agree with previous comments re thumb sucking and blankets, etc, being same as dummies in comfort they give, yet seem to be tolerated whilst dummies despised. And yes, didn't even bother with dummy fairy as dd2 no way near understanding bribery, v much at the instant gratification stage. And she doesn't really respond to stickers or gifts as a reward, doesn't understand the connection with loss of dummy. And is still asking for her dummy.

Not read everything but think I am agreeing with earlier posters who say you would never take away a childs comfort toy or blanket so why would you want to take away a child's comfort dummy? I get that it might not be the best for their teeth but still .... surely if you restrict it to nighttime it cant be that bad and work on reasons why they would want to give it up (but they would need to be older to do this).

we had to take away our DS's dummy around 17m as he suddenly started biting/chewing through them! he only had them at night strictly but I found one morning he had bitten 3/4 the way through one - one more bite and it would have been choking him which frightened the life out of us and we stopped it there and then; he was too young to understand any story about it, so we just simply stopped it and it DID take him longer to go to sleep for a fortnight which was difficult but we couldn't risk him chewing it so didn't go backwards. He didn't seem unduly upset, just took him longer to go off for a bit whilst he got used to it. (I was told once they had alot of teeth/were chewing things by a HV that it could be dangerous for them to have a dummy which seems to have been bourne out by our experience!) obviously its different for everyone, our DS is, well WAS, fairly placid and he wasn't talking when we stopped his dummy, he was at a stage of just accepting things - so I was glad we did it earlier, as now at 25m it would have been a far different story... :)

Week 3 and things still bad. Bedtimes not so terrible, but still a longer process than pre dummy removal. Wakes at least once every night making new screeching noise. Wakes around 5.30 every morning. Won't sleep in the day at lunchtime, keels over around 3-4pm and has to be woken after half an hour if any chance of getting her to bed later.

Husband and I falling out, he wants to commit, do formal dummy fairy ceremony and for DD1 at same time, and no turning back. I keep threatening to sneak them out of the cupboard. And don't know if can handle extra sleep deprivation of another child going through this...

Nummy- if your DH wants to take that step he should be prepared to shoulder some of the bedtimes, night time wake ups and early mornings.....

just wondering how everyone is going with dummy removal?
the dummy fairy is coming to visit our 2.2yo tonight...we have talked about it alot - to the point where DS was scared fairies were coming to steal his dummies, so tonight we have had official ceremony. he has only ever slept through a handful of times - still wakes on average 3 times a night and is up for the day at 530am, so really, nothing to lose here and so sleep deprived after over 2 years of this i barely know my name.
he was very good at putting his dummies in bag, and then put bag outside for fairy. he cried when going to bed and my DH is still with him now as he falls asleep. fingers x this is an relatively easy journey for us. he gave up night time bottle 6 mths ago without so much as a whimper, so am hoping this will be the same :-/