Books / advice on huffiness & attitude in 4 yr old please?

[HinnyPet]

Just had parent / teacher chat at school , they are very happy with everything and pleased with the progress of my 4 yr old at school except her grumpy strop time, when she goes into a mood, crosses her arms, scowls and stamps her feet.

These little episodes can last 5 mins or so, the teacher is fine about everything else, but concerned that she "can't get through" to my 4yr old when she's like this.

She won't respond to "what is wrong" type of questions with me or teacher, nor will she tell us why she's feeling "cross with you" or respond to why she says "I not even look at you". She seems very grown up when she's doing these grumpy strops!

Does anyone have any book ideas we can all read together? So we can try and resolve this? Or what would you suggest we do?

So pleased it ain't just mine !

Anybody any ideas?

Shameless bump, really need MN advice

I've got one of those too (male variety). Out of desperation, last week I invented a mood chart. It's been very helpful in getting him to recognise his feelings and helping us to talk about them.

Get some card and draw chart with days of week on, then get another piece of card (sticky back kind is good) and draw round a bottle top lots of times so you have lots of ready-made circular stickers. Get four felt tips: yellow (happy cooperative face), grey (moody uncooperative face) and red (screaming tantrum face) and black for drawing in the features. You can either present them with some examples or ask them to draw their own - mine were really enthusiastic about it. Each morning give them a blank face they have to draw themselves then stick it on before going to school, then you can choose other set times for drawing other faces.

At the end of the week you end up with (hopefully) one or two reds, a few grey faces and lots of yellows.