My 4yr old ds hits me but not my dh

[LeggieMum]

My 4yr old ds has developed an agressive temper and lashes out at me. He ounches and kicks me when trying to reason with him about his behaviour and also if I do not listen. I know this is for attention as we have a 8m dd who he now has to share us with. What concerns me is that he takes the agression out on me and shows very little towards dh - any advice help....

Hi, I would say that the reason its just you he takes it out on is just proof of the strong bond you both have, the mother child bond will naturally be stronger than the father child one, no matter how close they appear. How long has the difficult behaviour been going on for?I noticed with my son and with my friends eldest children that there was a sort of six month delayed reaction to the new sibling.

All you can do is be totally consistent with your treatment of his poor behaviour. Try some super nanny techniques. I think her methods make alot of sense. He wants you toshow him that you still love him just as much as you did before the baby arrived. And one of the crucial ways to do this is to show him that you will still disipline him for unacceptable behaviour. Another thing is to make sure you have some quality one to one time with him every day. Even if its only for 15mins.

As you can probably tell from my advice I do rate Jo Frost's methods quite highly!

Sure it'll all blow over in a few weeks.