Ds 2.5 refuses 2 wear new shoes or coats or anything really!

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My DS is 2.5. He has grown out of his current shoes. I have bought 3 new pairs now. 1 the same as the old ones and 2 very similar. However, he refuses 2 wear any of them. He either has a tantrum or just politely refuses and sits down. We have tried everything from forcing 2 bribing but nothing works. We have also let both gp's try. Not only o worried about his feet but also don't want a battle every time he needs something new! Any advice? P.s he also refuses 2 choose new ones himself!

My DS is a couple of months younger than yours and is the same. When he needed new shoes it was a nightmare for a few weeks, wrestling him to get them on and then trying to keep them on. In the end I think he just resigned himself to them. Now I'm having trouble trying to get him to wear a different coat as it's been a bit warm this week for his thick winter coat. They get so set in their ways. Next time I try the new coat I'll distract him with a jaffa cake and ignore any protests. I think you just have to persevere and ignore their protests. It's not easy though.

Ha my DS was like this. To the point where he would barely try on shoes in the shop! We would be lucky to get one pair on him to try.... the asistant always looked a bit when I said we would buy the first pair he tried on (providing they fit him vaguely!)

The same with new coats too...

We used to just say put them on or go without them - your choice. But if you go without you will have to stay in the buggy. Then we would go somewhere like the park (evil mother I am). After 10 mins of no comment from me and him sitting watching everyone play, he would let me put them on .

He is finally starting to grow out of it... not 100% but much better... at the age of 6 and a half.

My 2yo ds is the same. I've also learned that it's best to let him choose the model in the shop or he won't even contemplate wearing them again. Even so, it can still be tricky to get him to accept the new ones. The last two or three times that I've bought him shoes, I've hidden the old ones so that he can't see or find them when it's time to go out. Before he wears them out for the first time, I also make a point of putting them on him at a time when we are not going out anywhere so that he can get used to them at home. Everyone and anyone who is in the house when this happens, usually some time during a weekend, are instructed to make a big fuss and comment very positively on his new, nice, cool shoes. Ds loves the attention and gets very proud and excited about showing everybody his new shoes, even to the point that last time he wanted to wear them to bed that night .

Another trick is not to take the new shoes off when you you buy them and to take the old ones with you in the bag instead. Once again, make a big fuss over how great they are and what a big boy he is with his new cool shoes and any friends/acquaintences/family that you may see on the way home should do the same as well. It seems silly but making a fuss over them it really seems to make a big difference with my lo.