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Still concerned about dd and selective mutism

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Wallace · 20/07/2005 15:16

I posted a while back about my dd (4). She has been at nursery since last August and doesn't talk at all there. She did a tiny bit at the beginning, then stopped after Christmas.

The nursery say she is getting a bit better - she will almost join in with actions for songs, and she looks more animated. The teacher thinks it is just shyness, and nothing needs to be done. They say if she is still not talking by Christmas, then they will start to worry (she starts school next year).

The problem is that she is getting worse everywhere else. She only talks to myself and ds. SHe doesn't talk to dh, or any other relatives or adults that she has known all her life. She has 2 girls who are her friends, and she talks to them. But she hasn't seen them all summer holidays and I am worried that when she sees them again she will not talk to them either.

I was quite happy with the wait and see approach, but, as yuo can understand, dh would like to be able to have a conversation with her. And as things seem to be getting worse I am a bit concerned there is more of a problem than we first thought.

How do we go about getting help? Through the school, or GP?

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Wallace · 22/07/2005 11:49

mogwai - how do you go about treating it?

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Wallace · 22/07/2005 11:51

barefoot angel, I know what you mean. People are always saying to dd "are you shy?" which has made it worse as she now has an excuse "I don't have to talk because I'm shy"

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BareFootAngel · 22/07/2005 14:13

it doesnt get better ! my dd age 8 is talking at school and actually spoke on microphone in french the other day [i was in tears nearly] but still wont talk to my friends one of which says to her your very rude!,,,,

Wallace · 23/07/2005 07:41

That's awful about what your friend says. Do you find people (ones who know she has a problem) all think they know how to make her talk?

I'm glad your dd is managing to talk at school

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