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2 year old hitting and throwing

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catbus · 15/03/2010 10:55

My 3rd DC is 2.4 years and for the past few months at least has been doing an awful lot of hitting and throwing toys. It doesn't appear to be any different when he has had lots of positive attention. He doesn't do it with any apparent aggression; in fact it's obviously heightened when he's excited. His accuracy with throwing toys at high speed is pretty frightening. My eldest DDs never did anything like this, and cope remarkably well with it all! I do put him on the bottom step as soon as I can, but this seems to be doing bugger all. I do try to keep things calm in the house, but tbh, I don't think it's very fair for my other DCs to not be able to get excited for fear of being hit.
Please tell me this is very much a boy thing and that it will pass!! He doesn't have tantrums or be what would be taken to be aggressive in a horrible way..This may sound stupid but he just seems full of beans and needs help to control his energy?!
Anyway, tips from those that have been there would be great!

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twoistwiceasfun · 15/03/2010 11:13

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catbus · 15/03/2010 11:23

Thanks; we do this regularly and although not as bad he still whacks them outside!! I take it your DS's phase wore off??

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OTTMummA · 15/03/2010 11:42

this is normal, i have 3 brothers and they all did this, and guess what, so does my son!
our house is calm and we have lots of fun,
Its funny sometimes as he hits me and then looks sad and gives me a hug and kiss lol.
they get over eventually.

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flowerybeanbag · 15/03/2010 15:35

Not a major problem here but if DS2 hits me or throws something he gets a warning, then if he does it again a toy gets taken away. Does the trick for us.

BlueberryPancake · 15/03/2010 16:00

no warning for us. Hitting is the biggest no no in our house. If they hit, they go streight away in the corner for 3 minutes, no warning. If they throw their toys, the toy goes on the fridge for one full week. I have a basket on the fridge and it is most of the time empty, because they really got the message quickly. They are now 2.10 and 4, both boys.

thinkingaboutdrinking · 15/03/2010 16:39

I just wanted to say - I could have written the OP except that my 2.3yo is DD. She is constantly hitting DS (4) and throwing things. It's really getting me down as nothing I say or do seems to make any difference - I seem to just end up yelling which obviously doesn't help - then I just feel like crap mummy again... so no words of wisdom but just to say you're not alone.

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catbus · 15/03/2010 18:02

Well, the fridge is an interesting one!! I take toys away immediately they are thrown; he is simply not arsed. Put on step when hitting; this does make him cry, but he does not stop for long. I have noticed though that he will have bursts of this kind of thing, then sit down and be absorbed for ages in whatever he's doing..
Going outside can abate it a bit; until a rock or whatever from the garden gets lobbed. It is a simple love of throwing and he is a serious shot putter. Like I said, I only hope his dreams of Olympian strength will be quashed at some point. Preferably in the near future before the bottom step is worn out..

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catbus · 15/03/2010 18:03

Or before my sanity is worn out..

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MajorMajor · 15/03/2010 22:05

I have a 2.2 yr old. I think it's a bit confusing for them at times. We go to the park, give him a ball and encourage him to throw it or kick it & give him lots of praise if he does. Then we come home, he finds something that looks throwable (like a toy car or whatever) so he gives it his best, and we shout at him and punish him.

So in my view, when they're 2, it's better to watch them and stop them from doing any damage rather than punishing them if they throw stuff.

tryingtoleave · 16/03/2010 10:28

DS was like this when he was 2 and there was nothing I could do - he didn't respond to any kind of discipline. Just 3, together with a change in diet, he started being more responsive to time out and the throwing began to abate. He's 3.5 now and he hardly ever throws things. The only time he does is sometimes when I pick him up from preschool (which he's just started)and he's overtired and overstimulated. But all I have to do now is say 'don't throw that ds, or I will confiscate it' and he stops. So we've come a long way in the last year.

Bucharest · 16/03/2010 10:34

If the toys aren't there, they can't be thrown.
I like the fridge idea....

JustMoon · 16/03/2010 17:12

Do you have my son hostage? Same thing he is 2.6 and just throws things like he just can't resist the temptation. I can see it in his eyes when I see the arm raised and I tell him to stop, he is so trying to control himself but the urge is so strong!

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