really I am..........
Have posted re my 10mo DS with various medical/special care needs before but today I am calling on you all for some much needed advice on my 11yo DD. It's like living with a supercharged moody version of me! I can hear my mother in my own voice whenever I say for the hundreth time, "please stop rolling your eyes at me" as she stomps off down the hallway after hugging me one minute and hating me the next.
I think that alot of this is hormones (things have started to change) and I know for a fact that I was moody too at this age - my poor father has told me the terrible stories of the rows my mother and I would have over my eye rolling and tutting - so I guess if she's like me, she doesn't stand a chance!
Everything is a drama, everything is not her fault, everything is pants and even though I swore that if I ever had a daughter, I'd always try to be friends with her, stay close and talk about everything, there are some days, like today, when I just want to go to the pub.
It's really hard not to react and sometimes I wonder if I'm not giving her enough or the right kind of attention due to DS needs (I'm his only/primary carer most of the time, DH helps out when he can) and her moods are fuelled by my lack of time to spend with her. She's lots of friends at school but rarely sees them at home, even though I ask her to invite them over if/when she wants.
Also, parents evening was a bit of a shock an eye opener as her teacher said she's been withdrawn and said that DD complains that she can't do her work??? She's bright and her reports are usually fab. Is this due to senior school?
DS has been in and out of hospital alot of late and been very poorly so is she worrying about that? Does she resent DS taking up so much of my time? I do have a cuddle with her when she goes to bed and when I can get help with DS, we go shopping, just us. I try to involve her with DS too and she says she loves helping.
Any advice will be appreciated.